Having marriage problems we both want to work through but the effort feels skewed.
Me (36F) and my wife (33F) are working through marriage problems and we both have said we really want this to work. Shes been really happy with all the work ive been putting in but I dont feel like im receiving the same back. She said she cant put her all into it cos May is a very very busy month for her. This is very true but when she says things like 'I dont have time to think about anything but work' I know this is a lie and sounds like an excuse to me.
We're open and she has someone else she sleeps with and has feelings for. Ive been asking my wife for a long time that it would mean a lot of she could plan us a day out, the planner usually but id like her to do it now and then, she hasnt done this so far as work has been busy but has just told me shes planning a day out for the girl shes sleeping with.
I told her this hurt my feelings and she erupted at me telling me I make things all about myself etc etc. She then told me that nothing is ever enough for me which is just so far from the truth.
Am I being unreasonable?