AIO I don't want my 10 year old autistic nephew to live with us anymore after everything he's put us through
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So, I'm 17 and Im not the primary caregiver of him, my mom is. We've basically had him since he was born.
I feel guilty for not wanting him to live with us, because I love him and he has a disability, but he makes our lives such a struggle sometimes. He's not potty trained, he hits his head on things when hes mad or other people, he throws his toys, and has knocked important things over, and I'm getting to have enough of it. Today, he ripped down something that was hanging on my door, that I have told him multiple times not to touch, and he did it anyways. I was also telling him to get out of my room, but he wasn't listening and just hitting his head on the wall. My mom came up, and asked me why I was upset and I basically yelled "He's messing things up, I wish he didn't live him, he causes so much stress, I wish my life wasn't like this" and she stayed silent and told him to go downstairs. It's been upsetting me all day, and not just because it happened this one time.
He's ripped stuff I have hung up on the wall and stuff others have, stood on a box in my closet and tried to climb into my ceiling, broke multiple things of mine, and many other things that I don't even wanna talk about. We are thinking about home schooling him this year because the only school he can go to sucks, which means I'm going to have to watch him most days.
My mom agrees that she wishes we could do something else with him, find another place for him to live, somewhere that will take him, but she says it makes her feel selfish and like she's giving up on him. I just don't know what to do, Im very stressed out.
EDIT: I meant doorway, I don't have a door to my bedroom, hence why he can always get in. Also, I won't always be watching him, my mom will watch him most of the day