AITAH For wanting a solo vacation as a 26F?
I (26F) recently graduated from graduate school and to celebrate I wanted to take a vacation and it just so happened that my favorite artist announced a tour date in one of my ideal location spots. I also know a few people in the area that I wanted to meet with. Before I bought the tickets I checked in with my family to make sure there were no major conflicts surrounding that date and there wasn't. I bought the ticket then informed my family that I would be going on a solo vacation to LA. I emphasized solo when telling them because my mother (60+F) has a history of trying to force herself into my travel plans and/ or micromanaging my travel.
I just meant to inform my family of my plans, but this was obviously a mistake. Since then my mother has escalated from accepting it, to vaguely trying to make it a family trip, to "l'll go with you and just be in the same area. No hanging out, to now where she just informed me that we're on the same flight and in the same hotel room.
Her justification is that LA is dangerous and she wants me to be safe, but it genuinely just makes me feel like I'm still a child and I feel like I'm at the age and point in my life where I need/want to be doing things like traveling on my own. When I brought this up to her she accused me of planning to meet up with a boy (I'm not) and implied that something nefarious was going on to where I wouldn't want her around (there's not). I tried to calmly explain and she acted like it was a personal slight against her and got upset that I was pushing back. I completely don't understand this reaction because from the beginning I was vocal about not wanting her to go with me.
Regardless of if she was upset or not I feel like that type of reaction is extremely selfish because then the emotional burden gets put back on me and makes me feel guilty and selfish for making her upset.
AITAH for being upset at her and thinking that it's insane for her to slowly force herself into my vacation?