u/Cclow52 — reddlx

So easy going

This I’m sure is an example of what the book and Doc Loves teachings bring out. I went on 2 dates with this girl. I was supposed to know I’m apparently in a relationship already in her mind and need to check in the whole time I’m traveling.

I sent one message about a day into being there - i was gone 5 days. The next day she started asking me if I was with some girl - because she got a call from a Canada number randomly and never did before (I was but why is that her business).

Anyway - not easy going, not easy to get along with. My follow up was basically well clearly you missed me and said to let me know when she was free. Then she wanted me to explain how I had my phone the whole time and didn’t reach out 🤣.

This is the second woman that used this on me - and no I’m not a cold fish. If anything im usually too dopey.

I’ll chalk this up as dodging a bullet. 2 dates in and already this insecure. And when the man she thinks she’s looking for starts checking in all the time, let’s see if she doesn’t reject him too

u/Cclow52 — 1 day ago

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Low interest or structured?

Saw this girl twice. First night was a few actives and kissing about 2 hours in. I called her about 6 days later to Invite her out again, she answered right away and gave me all 3 nights she was open. I offered pick her up and she declined than meet me for second date. Same thing, few fun places, heavier kissing and petting but we live an hour apart so was far from home for invite back. She was touchy and seemed into me.

I have been busy moving and on work trip so hit her up 5-6 days later again and get this message back. She never tried to reach out between either so seems like a justification to me of why she feels her interest isn’t high enough or just structured. Your great “but” bs.

Anyway - my reply back was it’s good to communicate when something bothers you and you know it’s ok to reach out if you miss me too I’d love to hear from her. And then to reach out with her free nights if she changes her mind

Thoughts? The longer break didn’t hurt the second time and I’m leaning if she really wanted to see me she would and would have reached out.

u/Cclow52 — 29 days ago

▲ 0 r/CoreyWayne

1st date good, now she travels - Fear and Illusion of Action

We really get our feelings engaged early don’t we. But I will speak for myself. I had great date on Friday with a girl that physically I’m really attracted too. Hottest of my life - no - but from my list I made she checks all the boxes. She was a lot of fun, social, engaged, nice, on time, respectful, and just good feminine energy. The conversation flowed naturally and didn’t feel like an interview on each side. We Kissed a few times during bowling and before having her go off at home. During bowling she was coming behind me to like correct my posture and get close and bump into me.

Note - I don’t take a kiss as anything at this point, because I have been on dates with girls and kissed, made out, etc and they say I had a good time then never respond at all - and then some that didn’t that pursue me…anyway

She text me when she got home, said the I had fun line, and then wished me luck in my softball tournament the next day. I responded I enjoyed it and yada yada few jokes about the night and let it be.

Ended up calling her Monday evening and she answered (none of the missed call and text back bullshit) and chatted a few minutes then asked her out again. I knew she was traveling just not the days. She said I’m leaving Friday and back Tuesday the following week. I’m tied up until then so said cool when she gets back then and she said sounds good. Told her enjoy your trip if we don’t talk before you go and see you soon.

I know the answers I think but one -

- should I have pushed harder and set the date for the following weekend she was back since I knew she would be there. Not huge on 10 days out but I think still was an option to get definite plans - or was that just fear

2 - i know this, but just let her be right? If she reaches out when she’s gone that’s a good sign. All my fear is have to keep communicating . Even tho I went through same thing with another girl like 2 weeks ago, and she ended up reaching out when she got back to see me, and I didn’t text at all - I just didn’t like that one as much. I think I answered my own question

3 - she comes back Tuesday so just hit her up Thursday if she doesn’t reach out? Gives her a day or so to settle in. I also leave the following week for work, then the entire week after that for family trip - so I think fear is making me want to push harder to see her because what if we don’t get time before I’m gone.

It was one date, and I need to chill. I think i wrote this more to get it out of my head. And yes I’m going on other dates - but there’s always a few that we get drawn too more.

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u/Cclow52 — 1 month ago