really upset that the guy i've been seeing is not communicating with me, but his love for mixing benzos and drinking upsets me more
i (30F) met this guy through a mutual over a month ago. been on 4 dates, had a romantic weekend getaway that was incredible. our chemistry is unmatched, we have a lot of common interests, are extremely comfortable together, agreed to start off casual and see where this connection goes, but i've been feeling really confused with two big red flags.
first being his communication issues. i confronted him on our second date about it and he simply said he hates texting. he snaps me here and there but there is just no consistency and it leaves me feeling pretty shitty. that alone really turns me off and is lowkey showing me his true feelings.
second being his love for mixing xan and drinking. he loves taking qbs and drinking a lot on the weekends, which honestly scares the shit out of me. i tried to talk him out of taking more xan when we had our lil getaway but that obviously didn't work. i dabble in drugs and love to drink but i have heard that the xan/drinking combo is something super serious & that i shouldn't get involved with it. he swore up and down that he wasnt addicted but even if he's not, his usage still gives me a bad feeling ):
was hoping that this situationship was going to turn into a relationship, but maybe i dodged a bullet? idk. but my head is scrambled & i'm pretty sad about it