I (30M) am thinking of asking my friend/ co worker (25F) out on a date but unsure if I should ask her out in person or over the phone?
I (30M) have recently, well in the last 6 months, have developed feelings for my friend who I also work with (25F) and have been thinking of asking her out but I feel conflicted.
A bit of backstory about our history. We have known each other for nearly 4 years and have being flirty at times but also often annoyed at each other, mainly her at me. About 2 years ago she started dating another colleague of mine and they were going steady for the two years. Around 8 months ago we started talking a lot more through text and in work spending more time with each other and about 3 months ago she broke up with her boyfriend, which she did not tell me until about a month after the breakup.
Her ex has not spoken to me since the most I can get out of him is a hi ( I feel kind of bad about the breakup as I got her flowers for valentines day while he didn't, the breakup happened a bit after that, yes I know that was a stupid idea I was not thinking clearly). Since then my relationship with her has been weird there's moments when we are alone she seems happy to be around me but then there's other times were she's mad at me and will barely acknowledge my existence.
I honestly have no idea how she feels about me. It's probably a good time to add I'm on the spectrum and have always struggled with romantic connections. I overthink every interaction and talk myself down until I believe I'm being delusional about her even liking me slightly. I kind of feel like she's waiting for me to ask her out or express my feelings but at the same time I feel like she knows I like her and is avoiding me for that reason.
I'm not going to see her for two weeks and I was wondering If you think it would be a good idea to ask her if we can talk over the phone about this. If you have any questions I'll do my best to answer them.