At the end of what I write what I’m really asking is:
If I go for a full time nanny - does what I’m experiencing go away? Or does it just create twice the BS to wad through?
We had a nanny we will call C, was paying her $28 an hour to care for a 3-month old roughly part time (20+ hours) - this lasted for about 3 months before we fired her. Rate due to being a literal infant and had solid references albeit not all infants.
Reasons for being fired: rolling eyes at us (and more) when we required her to change how she responds to our daughter - our daughter is low maintenance - so she was leaving her in the sleep space awake 10-20 minutes until she would start to cry for about two weeks before I was able to understand what was happening. Baby wasn’t sleeping at night for us at all - suddenly awake in there when she’d been such a good sleeper before. I thought maybe regression - but turns out just a nanny who didn’t want to pick her up… we sat her down directly and gave a PIP for lack of better words for it - she didn’t meet expectations and was let go. We hadn’t had that issue at the start so it fully betrayed our trust.
Set out a second search this time for a mother’s helper or early career nanny - rate reflects that - my trust is shot I was looking to train someone up. Rate for search $18-23/hr. People with no infant experience trying to get $23 an hour (top of our range) for “7+ years experience” when pushed what’s with infants they give the run around and it’s always vaguely someone in their family or a quick babysitting job for a friend.
I don’t think we’re paying low for what we’re seeking - we’re in a MCOL city. I want to do W2 but they all don’t want that. Even had this bizarre one where the woman reached out said she specifically works with 3-12 month olds. Then shared it would either be her or another woman caring for our child. Also we needed to pay her for the full month in advance via Zelle “like daycares do.”
I’m exhausted. Please - tips and tricks. I need him to have quality care and I want to get a professional who can take our requirements and roll with them. Background: I work in contacts and business operations. This is frustrating with how fast and loose my city is.