Potty Training Refusal
My daughter will be turning 3 at the end of July. We still have yet to have any success with the potty and we’ve been off and on trying for a while now. I’m trying not to stress, but she is starting pre school in August and she’ll have to be potty independent in order to start.
She is currently in daycare for three half days a week, and her teacher said that she will sit on the potty there, but she doesn’t actually go. I think the “herd mentality” helps when she sees her friends also going to use the potty at school.
At home though, she just absolutely refuses. I cannot bring it up, I cannot try or do anything without extreme meltdowns. I just do not understand it.
She has 2 potty books we read frequently, she watches the Ms. Rachel potty episode like once a week. She actually will walk me through the whole potty process while I’m going. She knows exactly what to do and what’s happening. But at home, she will not sit on the potty at all. I have the small potty and the bigger one that goes over the toilet and neither seem to be of any interest to her. We have the sticker charts and her toys/books by the potty. We have little treats for when we can manage to get her to just sit on it.
We have tried 4+ days of going pantless in the house, and she will consistently just go on the floor. Shes sat on the potty for like 10+ minutes before and has just gotten up and peed on the floor immediately after. If I try to get her to sit very 30 mins- 1 hour it seems to make it worse.
I dont know what I’m doing wrong. I’m lucky to even get her to sit when I do. She doesn’t care about getting a little reward or treat. She just looks at the potty at home and freaks out. The only times she wants to sit by herself is for whatever reason still wet, right out of the bath. I just don’t get it. I’m at such a loss.
Everyone keeps just telling me to keep it positive and fun! Stay consistent! But like??? That’s not helping me at all in this situation. We’ve been trying since last summer basically with 0 success. I can’t really wait it out anymore or keep putting it off. My friends and family that have kids did not seem to struggle this much or fight it this hard. I think it boils down to loss of control and being pretty stubborn when it comes to my daughter.
I’m almost at the point where I feel like I need to get her pediatrician involved because I don’t know what I’m missing or doing so wrong. We’ve never put pressure on it or have forced it.
I know this long, and kinda turned into a rant. But I’m honestly frustrated with the complete lack of progress here (more with myself than her). But if anyone else had a very stubborn child, and got them to go on the potty please teach me your tips and tricks!