hello! my boyfriend and i met in college during my exchange semester abroad back in september in Canada.
we were together until january and then, although not initially planned, decided to do long distance.
it’s something i never imagined to do but breaking up wasn’t even up for discussion.
when we separated he talked about visiting me this summer in Europe. for context: he has a russian passport and has a schengen visa until the end of 2026 which he won’t be able to renew.
translated: he needs to visit me this summer cause in the next few years it will be really hard, expensive and unlikely for him to get a visa for single european countries.
this means that for at least the next 3 years it will be only me going to visit him, paying for flights and stay there.
i am a working student and i will be for a couple years more, but i live alone, so it he does visit me this summer he only needs to pay for his flight.
he is not sure that he will make it because given the degree he’s taking, he’s very dependent from his parents economically and his mother is also terrified of sending him here cause she knows someone who was allegedly denied entry to the EU.
the more time passes, the more prices rise, the more i lose hope. this week we will finally know for sure whether he will be able to book a ticket or not but i am honestly already a bit sure he won’t come here.
i am already preventively taking it really bad and i just do not know how to face eight more months before we can see each other with me going there.
i do not know if i am strong enough to do this but i also do not want to break up and leave at the first bump. furthermore, i strongly feel the weight of the heavy imbalance of our situations. especially economically since it will be really hard for me to pull off.
i know everyone here has gone through probably similar situations and i am not looking for someone to solve all of my problems, just a few words of comfort or advice if you have any.
thanks a lot in advance