no one seems to get me and im unsure what to do
i realized im nonbinary about two years ago, and came out to my friends not too long after that (i recall it was late summer and i came out about mid-autumn, if its important)
I've been acquainted with my friends for about 2-3 years at that point and I've been using she/her pronouns + presenting myself as a woman, so i told everyone i now go by she/they bc i understand someone could just get used to me using she/her and plus my friends are all cis and they probably don't get me at this. it didn't bother me much at the time
some time passed, i realized im uncomfortable with using she/her so i changed my pronouns to they/them completely. yet my friends kept misgendering me, and i wasn't thinking much of it, maybe they're still not used to it etc
timeskip again, about two years into me presenting myself as nonbinary. i started dating a cis man and he does not seem to understand me either, calls me his "girlfriend" (which is fine? i don't really like the word partner honestly) and... well he never actually uses my pronouns. he always makes his sentences the way he doesn't need to use any pronoun to me, if that makes sense. i remember one time we were talking and i asked him how he would recommend me to others (his friends, etc) and he answered he'd say that im "a nice girl" or something along those lines.
while hanging out with my bf i realized that everyone around me see me as a girl, and probably always will. i probably do look a bit androgynous, but i surely look feminine when standing near my bf as he's taller and bigger than me. i don't really want try looking more like a guy to people thinking i am one bc obviously im not a guy. i like having mid long hair and colorful/overall bright clothes and society sadly will recongnise it as girly, hence will see me as a girl
a few days ago i was talking to my best friend (she's cis) and complained to her how i feel weirdly girly especially around my bf and not sure what to do about it. she jokingly said to me that she hopes my boyfriend would "set me straight" referring to me being nonbinary and how she thinks my bf will "help" me come back to being a girl again. it was really uncomfortable and offensive, even though she meant it as a joke and apologized in advance. i know its hard for her to understand me as she never dealt with gender dysphoria etc etc but still i was hoping she'd support me and comfort me somehow, just saying something like "dating a guy doesn't automatically makes you a girl" would be more than enough
i feel so weird. none of people around me understand me, but can i really blame them for this? have anyone here been in similar circumstances?
any feedback will be much appreciated as i don't have anyone to talk about this. sorry for the ramble. text can be hard to read/understand, english is my second language. sorry for any mistakes