How do you handle allowing adult kids to have company?
My son is 18. He graduated last year and has worked at McDonald's for a year while going to his first year of college. He is a good kid aside from the occasional time that I know he has snuck beer with friends. He doesn't do drugs or steal or anything like that. No arrests or anything. My husband is his step dad since he was 3 and is really good to my son. He bought a couch and two chairs for our basement and put a nice tv down there so my son can have friends. But he is very strict about when son can have company. For instance, son works until 11:30 pm tonight and wants one friend to come over and hang out in the basement after work. I said no problem but husband is totally pissed. How do you handle this with your adult children still living at home? Do you allow them to have visitors once or twice a week at late night hours? I was a teen in the 90's and often my mom had no idea what I was doing. Am I out of line allowing this or what? I don't want to suffocate my son. Thank you!!
Edit to add: answers seem to be split on the best way to handle it. I should've taken a poll. lol. Thanks for all of the input!!!! 🫶
2nd edit to add, no one has to wake up early, so they aren't keeping us up when we have to work early. Also, it's just one nice kid and they don't make any noise chatting, playing video games or watching tv. Just to elaborate on the situation. I want to fix this so it works best for everyone.