From language partners to strangers again.
I’m 23F. He’s 30M.
I met him here on Reddit. It started with something simple—he helped me with English, and I helped him with Malayalam. That was it.
But slowly, it became more than just learning. We started talking every day. He was gentle, respectful, and incredibly understanding. At a time when I was already struggling with depression after a breakup, he felt like calm.
He was honest from the beginning. He told me he had commitment issues. I knew that. I still stayed.
We met in person. It wasn’t anything dramatic, but it felt real. He told me he liked me. I felt the same. We even decided to be serious—at least until he leaves Kerala (he’s from the north).
He told me he hasn’t met someone like me before.
He said I made him cry after a very long time.
And I believed him.
But the moment he felt that I was getting attached… everything changed.
He asked me to learn how to detach—even from him.
And then he decided to leave early, saying it would hurt me more later.
Just like that.
No fight. No mistake. Just… an ending.
It’s confusing how someone can: make you feel seen, safe, and special…
and then walk away because of that same connection.
Now I’m left wondering:
What actually causes commitment issues like this?
Why would someone pull away when things are genuine?
And was it real for him too… or just something temporary?
I don’t regret meeting him.
I just didn’t expect it to end this way.