u/Chaoticoops

Tell me how i need some stuff to cook

Haggis (Sheep stomach) Tastes weird but good i cant explain it

Edit: I love how almost no body has said the same answer more than once, its crazy how different peoples tastes are.

I’m 16M and I’m honestly not really sure how to explain what’s going on, but I could really use some advice.

Over the past while I’ve been getting a lot more emotional. I’m constantly tired, I get angry or upset more easily, and I feel like I’m going through a lot of normal teenage stuff emotionally, but I feel like my parents don’t really let me be unhappy.

Whenever I try to talk to them about how I’m feeling, it seems like one of us ends up upset, and it’s usually me. I don’t think they’re bad parents or anything, and I know they care about me, but I just don’t feel listened to. It feels like they’re not really happy with the way things are and maybe they’re disappointed in me, even though I don’t know if that’s actually true.

My only real hobby is gaming, and I know I probably spend too much time doing it, but it’s also one of the only things I genuinely enjoy. I’m actually excited about school, which I feel like is weird to say, but I am. I just feel like I’m not allowed to have negative emotions at home. If I’m sad, angry, tired, or just having a bad day, it turns into a bigger problem instead of me being allowed to feel that way.

There’s also some other stuff I’ve been thinking about. A while ago, one of my cousins died, and then my grandmother died a year or two later. I have ADHD, and I wonder if maybe I suppressed some of the grief without really realizing it. I don’t actually think about their deaths that often, so I don’t know if that makes sense, but I sometimes wonder if the anger and sadness I’ve been feeling could be connected to that, or if it’s completely unrelated.

Another thing that makes this difficult is comparing myself to my sister. I love my sister more than pretty much anyone and I think she’s an amazing person, so this isn’t me trying to blame her. But when she was my age, she got drunk, got into trouble, screamed and yelled at our parents, and they seemed to just let her be unhappy and figure things out.

I feel like I’m held to a completely different standard. I’m not saying I want to get drunk or cause trouble. I absolutely don’t. I just wish I had the same freedom to be upset, make mistakes, and figure myself out without feeling like I’m disappointing everyone.

I genuinely don’t know if I’m being unreasonable. Maybe this is just being 16. Maybe I’m overthinking everything. But I feel exhausted and emotionally all over the place, and I don’t know how to communicate that to my parents without every conversation turning into an argument or me ending up crying or angry.

Has anyone been through something similar? How do I get my parents to actually listen to me without it becoming a fight? And how do you deal with feeling like you’re disappointing your parents even when you’re trying your best?

I (16m) am so sick of my (close and extended) Family. My family is really messed up, but not necessarily in the way you might think.

On my mom's side, my family had a major falling out after my grandmother died. My mom and my aunt refuse to speak to each other, and because of everything that happened, my sister and I had to distance ourselves from that side of the family. The situation was getting really bad for our mental health, and now we haven't really talked to them in years.

My dad's side is complicated in a different way. My 7-year-old cousin died, and even though it has been four years, my family is still grieving very heavily. For example, my aunt says that every year on the anniversary of her death, she hugs and smells my cousin's old clothes. I understand that everyone grieves differently, but sometimes the way my family handles it feels morbid and honestly makes me uncomfortable which we had to distance ourselves from becuse it was cutting into our mental health.

There are also two new baby cousins on that side of the family, and both of them have the first name of my cousin who died as a middle name. I understand why my family did that, but being around all of this has made death and grief feel like a constant part of my family life.

I've also had a lot of mental health problems myself. I don't really want to go to therapy because I've had bad experiences with it in the past and have some really bad memories associated with therapy. I know people will probably tell me to go anyway, but right now I really don't feel comfortable doing that.

On top of everything, my family is constantly fighting. It's not usually physical, but there is a lot of yelling and screaming. My sister and parents get into arguments over things all the time. I'm rarely directly involved, but being around it still affects me. I have ADHD, and all the constant conflict and stress makes it even harder for me to focus and get anything done they always bring me into the arguments to pick a side or to vent too, and they dont listen when i tell them to stop.

I've tried distracting myself with video games, and I've thought about getting a job (and i did for the summer), but neither is really helping. I feel physically and mentally awful, and I know I probably need to exercise and get out of the house more, but my motivation is basically nonexistent.

I guess I'm looking for advice on what I can actually do to start feeling like myself again.

What hobbies or routines have helped you when you were stuck in a really bad mental rut? How do you motivate yourself to exercise or get out of the house when you have absolutely no motivation? And how do you deal with living around constant family conflict when you can't really change the people around you?

I'm not necessarily looking for someone to tell me to "just go to therapy." I'm more interested in practical things I can start doing on my own to make my life feel less miserable.

(i know this post is a slew, im going to sleep now fi u have any questions ill be up in like 10 hours, all advice is appreicated)

I (16m) am so sick of my (close and extended) Family. My family is really messed up, but not necessarily in the way you might think.

On my mom's side, my family had a major falling out after my grandmother died. My mom and my aunt refuse to speak to each other, and because of everything that happened, my sister and I had to distance ourselves from that side of the family. The situation was getting really bad for our mental health, and now we haven't really talked to them in years.

My dad's side is complicated in a different way. My 7-year-old cousin died, and even though it has been four years, my family is still grieving very heavily. For example, my aunt says that every year on the anniversary of her death, she hugs and smells my cousin's old clothes. I understand that everyone grieves differently, but sometimes the way my family handles it feels morbid and honestly makes me uncomfortable which we had to distance ourselves from becuse it was cutting into our mental health.

There are also two new baby cousins on that side of the family, and both of them have the first name of my cousin who died as a middle name. I understand why my family did that, but being around all of this has made death and grief feel like a constant part of my family life.

I've also had a lot of mental health problems myself. I don't really want to go to therapy because I've had bad experiences with it in the past and have some really bad memories associated with therapy. I know people will probably tell me to go anyway, but right now I really don't feel comfortable doing that.

On top of everything, my family is constantly fighting. It's not usually physical, but there is a lot of yelling and screaming. My sister and parents get into arguments over things all the time. I'm rarely directly involved, but being around it still affects me. I have ADHD, and all the constant conflict and stress makes it even harder for me to focus and get anything done they always bring me into the arguments to pick a side or to vent too, and they dont listen when i tell them to stop.

I've tried distracting myself with video games, and I've thought about getting a job (and i did for the summer), but neither is really helping. I feel physically and mentally awful, and I know I probably need to exercise and get out of the house more, but my motivation is basically nonexistent.

I guess I'm looking for advice on what I can actually do to start feeling like myself again.

What hobbies or routines have helped you when you were stuck in a really bad mental rut? How do you motivate yourself to exercise or get out of the house when you have absolutely no motivation? And how do you deal with living around constant family conflict when you can't really change the people around you?

I'm not necessarily looking for someone to tell me to "just go to therapy." I'm more interested in practical things I can start doing on my own to make my life feel less miserable.

(i know this post is a slew, im going to sleep now fi u have any questions ill be up in like 10 hours, all advice is appreicated)

I (16m) am so sick of my (close and extended) Family. My family is really messed up, but not necessarily in the way you might think.

On my mom's side, my family had a major falling out after my grandmother died. My mom and my aunt refuse to speak to each other, and because of everything that happened, my sister and I had to distance ourselves from that side of the family. The situation was getting really bad for our mental health, and now we haven't really talked to them in years.

My dad's side is complicated in a different way. My 7-year-old cousin died, and even though it has been four years, my family is still grieving very heavily. For example, my aunt says that every year on the anniversary of her death, she hugs and smells my cousin's old clothes. I understand that everyone grieves differently, but sometimes the way my family handles it feels morbid and honestly makes me uncomfortable which we had to distance ourselves from becuse it was cutting into our mental health.

There are also two new baby cousins on that side of the family, and both of them have the first name of my cousin who died as a middle name. I understand why my family did that, but being around all of this has made death and grief feel like a constant part of my family life.

I've also had a lot of mental health problems myself. I don't really want to go to therapy because I've had bad experiences with it in the past and have some really bad memories associated with therapy. I know people will probably tell me to go anyway, but right now I really don't feel comfortable doing that.

On top of everything, my family is constantly fighting. It's not usually physical, but there is a lot of yelling and screaming. My sister and parents get into arguments over things all the time. I'm rarely directly involved, but being around it still affects me. I have ADHD, and all the constant conflict and stress makes it even harder for me to focus and get anything done they always bring me into the arguments to pick a side or to vent too, and they dont listen when i tell them to stop.

I've tried distracting myself with video games, and I've thought about getting a job (and i did for the summer), but neither is really helping. I feel physically and mentally awful, and I know I probably need to exercise and get out of the house more, but my motivation is basically nonexistent.

I guess I'm looking for advice on what I can actually do to start feeling like myself again.

What hobbies or routines have helped you when you were stuck in a really bad mental rut? How do you motivate yourself to exercise or get out of the house when you have absolutely no motivation? And how do you deal with living around constant family conflict when you can't really change the people around you?

I'm not necessarily looking for someone to tell me to "just go to therapy." I'm more interested in practical things I can start doing on my own to make my life feel less miserable.

(i know this post is a slew, im going to sleep now fi u have any questions ill be up in like 10 hours, all advice is appreicated)

As my computer is growing older and older, my RAM isn't holding up like it used to, and I don't really need as high-maintenance of a browser as Opera. But since I've used it for a long time and have been too stubborn to switch, is there an app or a way to export all my data to Brave or another browser?

(No, I don't mean just bookmarks. I mean things like history, settings, cookies, etc.) I have a ton of information that I would really hate to lose. I don't mind using third-party applications as long as they aren't malicious and aren't too difficult to use.

I know there is probably a textbook definition about being in harms way or whatever, but what can you most likely get away with in court as self defense, does it count if someone is harassing you? Stalking you? or is it only physical contact?

(I know, stupid question)

but i always thought of it as, unless we pee, poo, sweat, or eject something from our body how do we loose weight?

i know there's you digest food and your body uses those chemicals and you get rid of the waste, and by burning energy you somehow "burn fat" but we arent litterally burning off the fat right? its not evaporating into the air, so how does one loose weight by working out. (yes again i know stupid question)

Edit: okay i get it you "litterally" burn it off, leave my grammar and spelling alone

One of my friends has been struggling a lot emotionally and I’m not really sure how to help without overstepping or making things worse.

He has ADHD and divorced parents, and from what I know things at home are not the best. I don’t think he’s being abused or anything, but his parents seem kind of neglectful sometimes. He’s often exhausted, sick, injured in random ways, or just clearly not taking care of himself properly. He walks like half an hour to and from school every day and I’ve never even met or seen either of his parents.

He’s really open and loud socially, but emotionally he’s all over the place. He also told me before that he had a porn addiction, which makes me think he’s probably been dealing with stress or loneliness for a while.

One thing that worries me is that when he has headphones on, if someone taps him or bumps into him unexpectedly he flinches really hard and kind of panics for a second. I don’t know if it’s anxiety, trauma, stress, or something else, but it feels deeper than just being startled.

I care about him a lot and I want to support him, but I’m also a teenager and not a therapist. I don’t know what’s actually normal, what’s concerning, or how much I should get involved.

What are good ways to support someone like this without making them feel judged or pressured? And at what point should I actually be worried enough to tell an adult or counselor?