I (>40f) have been feeling myself pulling away from my (<40nb) partner. We only live a few hours away from each other but only see each other once a month. I do not receive any phone calls, only surface level texts unless I push deeper topics. They have multiple partners, I am dating around, but nothing serious. We had a discussion about what we want out of our relationship and agreed it wouldn’t be casual. But that’s exactly what it feels like.
I care very deeply for them. But the yearning has been exhausting so much so I feel it turning into resentment. This saddens me. I know they are busy, I know they have a lot of obligations as far as balancing their partners and life outside of relationships. But I want more. I want them, but I want more. My head is telling me I either need to accept this as casual or let them go. My heart doesn’t want anymore pain, but don’t want to let them go. I don’t know what to do.
Please be gentle, I’m not in a great place right now.