AITAH for not wanting to give my now ex tickets to a rave i bought for a valentine’s day gift ?
This is my first ever post on reddit so please excuse my bad etiquette if anything. I (21M) was dating my now ex (19F) for about seven months. To me things were stable fun and light. I was really trying to do better since only my past relationship i was the problem. So constant dinner dates, attention and attentiveness, as well as some pretty expensive gifts, one of them being tickets to a rave coming with which weren’t cheap at all. I bought these tickets for us initially as a Christmas gift, seeing as we were very strong and seemed like we were gonna last for a very long time.
Come to find out in April she broke up with me. Saying ever since December (I bought the tickets in January) she was distancing herself from the relationship and knew she didn’t see things in the long term whatsoever. She said it was from her racist parents not being the biggest fans of me, to other minute issues that lead to this situation. These minute situations could’ve been solved if she had just communicated, but she said she seen no point as she again, didn’t see things going long with us whatsoever (her words not mine). It made it seem like from December to the day we broke up (Late April) the love was inauthentic and in a sense just not real whatsoever. She DID say I love you first in I believe october and still decided this relationship was not fit for her in the long term.
So my question is, do I still give her these rave tickets knowing she was already de committed to the relationship and see her at said rave or do I not give her the tickets and allow her to pay the now $200 tickets full price ? Thanks for reading.