OAD or continue my spontaneous pregnancy?
I’m 37F, 11 months postpartum and just found out I’m unexpectedly pregnant again. My first baby is still very little and I feel very content with the little one. I’m feeling extremely conflicted about what to do.
I love being a mom, and part of me can imagine another child bringing more love into our family. But I’m also struggling with the thought of losing even more autonomy, freedom, and mental space. Right now with one baby, my partner and I can still trade off responsibilities and sometimes rest. With two very young children, I’m scared we’ll both be “on duty” constantly. Also, we live in a HCOL area and the daycare for 1 child costs 3K/month.
I’ve realized that peace, emotional stability, and authenticity are really important to me. I always thought I wanted 2 kids or no kids my whole life but after having my baby, my heart changed and I’m content with 1 currently. I’m afraid of making a decision I’ll regret later.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you figure out what was truly right for you emotionally, mentally, and for your family long term?