We have all used willpower to control urges, but it doesn't work if you solely depend on it.
Because you are trying to do something which isn't normal to you, or at least neurologically.
You are trying to stop a habit while your identity says otherwise.
No matter how hard you try, you will always feel like pressure is building up instead of relief.
So, instead of trying to change something from your old identity, program a new one.
But you just can't stop it, and do nothing about it. The energy has to flow. It's natural.
I am not going to tell you what to do. Let me tell you what I did.
Old identity -> Porn, masturbation -> Considered normal.
New Identity -> Being intimate with a partner/Abundance -> Considered normal.
Now, every time I feel horny, like my pants are about to tear up horny, and I feel the need to relieve myself, I catch myself and go like "Why? If I want, I can be intimate with whoever I want."
Once I say this, the mental switch, the new identity activates, making this normal behavior, and slowly you will start seeing women approaching you giving you clear signals.
The more you are in this state of being, the easier it becomes eventually.
Being intimate is considered normal, not porn/masturbation, and yes, it does feel good, but why would you want to watch porn and jerk off when you can actually do the real thing if you want?
This is the identity switch that helps me keep going, no matter how hard I am, and every time you pass this test, it becomes easier.
If you fail, if you give in, get back into the new identity as fast as you can instead of criticizing yourself or guilt-tripping.
This method doesn't require much willpower, and all you gotta do is remind yourself who the fuck you are every single time.
Make it feel natural to be the person who can actually be intimate and build relationships with anyone you want, just like how you made PMO natural in your old identity.
One key ingredient to make a successful identity shift:
ACCEPTANCE.
Accept it that it felt/feels good, and that it is okay to do PMO, but right now, you are not that person anymore; you are making a different choice. You are confident and natural at having women and building lasting relationships with anyone.
You can't shame yourself into your new identity. Acceptance is the way, and acceptance comes from LOVE.
You are everything, and everyone, and you have the power to choose who you want to be, and with every choice you make, you are either creating/rewiring a new habit or reinforcing an old one. Choose consciously until it becomes natural.
TOOLS USED FOR NEURAL REWIRING:
Meditation, Subliminals (there are tons on YT), and good old journaling.
Much love to you all.
See you on this side of the spectrum.