So we’ve been friends since January which isn’t a super long time but we used to call all the time she is from New Zealand and I am from the UK so we haven’t met before but was planning on it, well a few weeks ago she disappeared, she barely texted me and we didn’t call for 2 weeks which was the longest we had gone without calling she then tells me on the phone that she has gotten into a relationship with someone who was visiting New Zealand but has now gone back to America. I do care about her alot and some stuff got a bit intense before her relationship like phone sex and images/videos, I want to be happy for her but due to feeling like a second though or being used I’m not sure how to tell her I’m getting worse, I’m not sure if I need to call and tell her this for it to get better but she always makes empty promises such as texting more about her day or just texting more in general but she’s been even more distant since the relationship.
Now I get it she’s in a relationship and prioritising them which I understand but she also knows I have anxious attachment and unfortunately I got attached to her due to her availability when we first become friends, I don’t want to ruin our friendship by lashing out and saying stuff that isn’t true but I’m sitting on thoughts and feelings I feel like I should tell her. What’s the best way to go about it, I’ve considered either going low to no contact but I don’t have many other friends to talk to so it’s hard to just cut someone so important out of my life as well not wanting to upset her with my decision to cut her out of my life. Any and all advice would’ve much appreciated.