I’m seeing so many post of the ladies really just accepting the worst from these men because you have herpes and it makes me very sad and annoyed.
If you feel that this space impacting how you feel about yourself and is inspiring you to stay or engage in situations that are harmful, I beg you to take a step back from Reddit.
There are plenty of women… people in successful loving relationships. You cannot be so terrify of being alone that you stay with a man because “nobody will ever love you with herpes” or “you never want disclosed”. Thats ridiculous.
Stand up! Disclosing is terrifying but I also try to not make a big deal and realize that oh well… there will always be another man. Trust me… they find me everywhere….(too bad they ain’t worth a damn! 😭🤣) They are a dime of dozen and dating is so difficult now that you should be more focus on how they are showing up as a partner/friend before you care about how they recieve “your secret”.
If it helps…. before you catch feelings or start to care, disclose quickly, simply… and make NO excuse so you can stop the overthinking and move on quickly if you even need to because most men don’t even care… or care to know their own sexual health which is also scary.
Also, there is nothing wrong with being alone and/or taking some time to yourself and away from Reddit to rebuild your self esteem… we all get knocked down!
It will be okay! We are fine! We will thrive!
Stop being so damn weak in the knees and stand up. Life goes on! I believe and trust in that and I’m hoping one day, you will too! ❤️