u/Charming_Chip99

I’m in high school and I’m trying to figure out if what I’m feeling is normal or if I’m overthinking things. I’m in a relationship with a girl I really like, and things are good between us, especially when we’re alone—she’s clearly into me, we communicate well, and I trust her overall. Recently, our relationship became public, which helped a lot with my jealousy, but I still find myself getting uncomfortable in certain situations. There’s one guy (who also has a girlfriend) that she gets along with really well. They joke around a lot, sometimes have inside jokes, and occasionally do playful physical stuff like pushing each other. I’ve noticed I sometimes start comparing myself to him or even trying to compete for her attention in group settings, especially when she laughs a lot at something he says. I know that’s not a great mindset, and I don’t want to be controlling or insecure, but it still gets to me in the moment. She’s been respectful and open with me, and I don’t think she’s doing anything wrong, but I’m trying to understand if it’s normal to feel this way or if I need to work on my own mindset. How do you handle situations like this without overanalyzing or becoming jealous?