AITAH for telling the woman I’m dating her “guy friend” was obviously taking her on dates?
I recently started dating a woman (28F), and told one of her guy friends was clearly trying to date her. She sees all of their hangouts as completely platonic
I found out about him because I saw her texting him when we were on a date. I asked who he was and she said that he’s a friend and they usually just go out to eat and talk about work and career goals
Here’s the stuff she told me about:
He invited her out to dinner at a sushi place after he was on a trip all day then took her to ice cream afterward. He drove from a few cities over just to see her.
Then they went to brunch at a French place that’s widely considered a date spot here and a farmers market after. She went on an actual date with me here recently.
They went on a group camping trip with their friends except he spent a lot of the trip helping her out: setting up her tent, carrying her chair, walking with her to the fire, and walking her back to her tent at night because it was dark. She said they only linked arms while walking because she said she has trouble seeing in the dark and he was guiding her back.
Another time he met up with her and her dog at a dog park near his work, and they walked around the park together.
They also went to a night market together in her neighborhood
She said they did brunch and a farmers market AGAIN with their couple friends. It sounded like a double date.
What gets me is he invited her over to his place for dinner and a movie. In what universe is “come over for dinner and a movie at my place” not an obviously a date or a hook up?
They were going to the lake together. To me, a lake day sounds naked, not something two people who are “just friends” do
When I talked to friends about it they agreed and said things like “yeah, that kind of sounds like dates” so it doesn’t feel like I was off base here.
When I pointed out that this guy was very obviously trying to date her or had feelings for her she got defensive and said that men and women can be just friends. She said something like “If a man doesn’t explicitly say it’s a date, then it’s just friends.”
But that part really threw me, because when I asked her out, I also didn’t say the word “date” and that was clearly a date to me.
AITAH?