In my opinion, duals have a natural physical and mental attraction. I am an EII woman and when I see a LSE man, I automatically like his face. Chubby cheeks, wide shoulders, hawkeyes (especially those glances, they are sharp, direct and posessive) and I think LSE people has a tendency to EII women, even though they are obsessed with good-looking, they like our little face and dark circles under our eyes. They think we are little poor emotional yellow chicks, lol.

Also, I observed that IEIs have a big tendency to SLE's physical appearance. And SLE's like IEIs physical appearance, I don't know why.

However, this is just an assumption. Not %100 true.

Hello, first of all, I am Turkish and English is not my native language.

I DODGED A BULLET.

Be careful about scammers.

AND PLEASE DON'T SAY YOU SHOULD HAVE DONE THAT EARLIER. I LITERALLY DUMPED HIM FOR 3 TIMES BUT HE CONVINCED ME BY LYING.

TLDR: This was a relationship of about two months. At first we had a perfect harmony. My (ex) boyfriend wasn't talking to me on the phone. We just talked on phone just for 15 seconds for once and he used to sent me short voice messages sometimes. Everytime when I asked for calling, he made up excuses and told me to wait. He was disappearing for 8-9 hours, he said it is because of the war in Russia. He claimed that he went to the shelter every day because of the war. He was manipulating me a lot and inflicting psychological violence on me. He offered me a job and bitcoin payment. I said no to that. He said he would come to my country and meet me. I asked him to show the ticket, he sent a ticket but the ticket was fake. I blocked him.

Long story:

I met my (ex) boyfriend on Instagram. I thought this person was a nerd and found it amusing. We spoke the same language (my mother language) He told me he was in Russia and that he was mixed-race. He knew a lot, he was intellectual, and I liked that. It was nice to chat with him. A week later, he told me that he liked me. I thanked him and told him that I needed more time to get to know him. We were talking to each other all the time. We were thinking the same things. Everything was great. I begun to like him and I told him so. We became a couple. Everything was going very well at first, but there was a problem. He would suddenly disappear. I couldn't reach him for 8-9 hours. At first I thought he was ghosting me and broke up with him. He told me that there was a war in Russia, which is why he often went to a shelter. At first, I believed him. But later this situation started to seem suspicious to me because it didn't make sense for him to be at home one day and then go to the shelter two days in a row. I looked for news. I told him there is no news about an attack, he told me not everything is in media. I don't know anything about Russia and I thought he was right. However, the time intervals during which he went to the shelter were always the same. He went to shelter 16.00 to 00.00. These things made me very suspicious, but I kept attached to him because there was a perfect harmony between us. The second problem is that he only talked to me on the phone once. We never had a video call. We only spoke out on phone once, and that was only for 15 seconds. Sometimes he sent short voice messages, but that's all. When I told him I wanted to make calls, he said he lived with his sister and she would make trouble. He told me to wait, that we could talk when her sister went on vacation with her friends. I understood and said OK. But the day he called me never came. Finally, I told him to go out and talk to me on the phone, but he said he couldn't do that. This was too much for me now. We argued but he manipulated me alot. The third problem was that he misunderstood on very small details. He would misunderstand even the slightest joke I told and break up with me. The next day or the same evening, he would return saying he missed me. I felt like I had to be careful about even the smallest thing I said. He was constantly talking about the sacrifices he made for me and making me feel bad. He said he even took his ticket to Turkiye. He started saying that I was worthless and not worthy of his kindness. I was experiencing psychological violence. Finally, I couldn't take it anymore and wrote about it in this subreddit on Reddit. I thank the people here. People who is in this sub living in Russia told me that he was lying and that it was impossible for him to go to the shelter so often. You also said that it wasn't normal for him not to make phone calls. I was so detached from him after people in Reddit awakened me. I kept talking to test him. He noticed I behaved cold to him and mad at me. I told him there is no problem. Manipulated him back alot. I asked him for his flight ticket. I told him that I was making a photo album about the two of us and that I would put this ticket in that album. (There was no such album haha) He sent me the ticket about 20 minutes later. This was suspicious. It should not have taken this much time. The airline ticket did not have the company logo on it. There was no PNR number. Additionally, the total flight time was incorrect. Furthermore, I learned that there has never been such a flight to that city in Turkey via St. Petersburg. I told him there was no such flight. He said check again. I asked him to send me the PNR number. He blamed me for not trusting him. Then I proved to him that he was lying. I have proved everything. I told him the ticket was fake and that he was lying about everything. He didn't give me any explanation. He just said "Ok, let's break up, bye" He blocked me. I blocked him too. Now I'm suffering emotionally because of this situation.

Extra note:

We had an argue 2 weeks ago and he broke up with me. When he returned, he told me that he wanted to do me a favor and that he wanted to hire me for his job. He said he would be a support assistant that he wanted to pay me in Bitcoin. Although I initially agreed to this, it later felt like a scam and I said I did not accept it. AI told me scammers launder money through bitcoin by using people in abroad. AI said they say there is a visa problem and they request for money or they ask you to send you bitcoin then send them back. Take care of you.

Hi guys me (F23) and my boyfriend (M24) are together for 2 months and he doesn't make phone calls. He is an introverted person. We just talked on the phone one time and it was just 15 seconds. We said good night to each other and it was all. When I ask for voice messages he sends me short voice messages. I asked him to call 3 times but he always had an alibi. First time I wanted it he said he doesn't want to but he will. I waited. Then I asked for the second time and he said he lives with his sister and she may hear what we talk, he added we can talk when she goes to school. Third time I wanted for calls he said you are too insistent and blamed me. I think this is because he is mixed. My mother language is his second language and he may not feel confident about my mother language. He also said he doesn't like his own voice. I just want to talk with my boyfriend like other girls who chat with their boyfriends on phone. I don't know what to do, this situation is so annoying.

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for more than a month. We had a perfect chemistry. Most of the time we think the same thing like twins. He lives in Russia and I live in Turkiye. There is a war there and sometimes he disappears for 8-9 hours. The hours of his disappearance usually coincide with the same hours. He's nowhere to be seen from 4-5 pm until 12-1 am. He tells me he went to the shelter because of war. At first I thought it was a lie and broke up with him twice. Then we talked. He explained the situation to me. We didn't fight again after that. Everything was going well. Then I realized that there was something strange about him. He was talking to me, but he was it was like there was something strange. He's normally a very very serious person, but at that day he was always making jokes to me. He was too excited. It was odd. He was different. Two days ago, he told me that her mother did not want this relationship and wanted to leave. He said his mom said he would k*ll him. (his mom is a soldier btw) I told him to talk to his mom, he said he talked, his mom said him she will think about it. He told me I love you and he said he would text to me. But now he's not looking at my messages. I haven't been able to reach him for about 24 hours. I've never been unable to reach him for this long. I suspect I've been cheated on. I don't know. I have been crying for days. I need help so much.

TLDR: My boyfriend lives in another country and he went to sanctuary because of the attack. When he did not text for hours I thought he ghosted me and told him we are done, but this was my second misunderstanding of him. I apologized, but he doesn't want to go back to me. He said he doesn't love me anymore. What should I do to get him back?

Hi guys, I have a relationship for 1 month and my and my boyfriend were doing good. this is a long distance relationship. We can talk for hours and never get bored. He is caring and gentle. I thought he was my soulmate. However, we argued because of some issues. At the beginning of our flirting stage, he blocked me without saying anything and the next day he unblocked me, said he has some worries. I told him I can understand, we solved the problem and he never blocked me again. There was an attack in his country and my boyfriend went to sanctuary but I did not know. I thought he ghosted me again and broke up with him. He came back and he told me it was not his fault. I was so upset for that. I told him I am not going to misunderstand. Everything was going well after that, but my boyfriend went to sanctuary again and I have some kind of attachment issues and thought he ghosted me again. I unfollowed him. When he came back he told me he was at sanctuary and he was very mad at me because I did not trust him. I apologized for 100 times but he said he doesn't want me anymore. He told me he doesn't love me anymore because of my action. I know the title is "we broke up because of Russian-Ukraine war" but know it was because of me and I miss him so much. Cried all night. I love that man with all my heart. I was just irresponsible. What should I do to get him back? I miss my baby so much.

First of all, it is quite possible in real life. Don't believe in those socionics writers who glorify dual relationships a lot. This won't be a "love at first sight" No one is %100 compatible to anyone even if it is your dual.

Dual relationships are like a "building" that two people should build together. They are not a house which is ready to open the door and go in, instead, it is a house that you should build from the zero point, but do you know what is good about it? You two can customize this house according to your own tastes. This will be a "special" house.

When you encounter with your dual for the first time, you will realize this person is very different from you, this will make you irritated. In time, you will realize that is a kind of differency that you needed, it is like going somewhere you don't want to go but when you go, you realize that you enjoy a lot and you'd say "wish I was here before". Anyways.

Dual relationships ask you to change, stabilize your suggestive function. You may not even know you need that until you experience it for a while.

In dual relationships you can see potential, but at the same time you may be not want to effort that you are supposed to put. If the two sides are willing to rasp and enrich each other, dual relationships are very delighted.

Dual relationships need care, caution and time, and nowadays not everyone are willing to do it in relationships.

If you want to continue reading I will give you a real life example from my life.

I am an EII-Ne. I am a teacher and in teacher academy there were two LSE lecturers of mine. One of them is a male professor, a man who is about his 60s. He was kinda rude, criticizing and prescriptive. He was like a boss rather than a professor. He did not want to accept new ideas, a conservative. He criticized everyone. I did not like him at that time. I generally participate classes actively. However, in his class, for a month, I never talked a word in his class. My friend got something is wrong with me and they asked me. I told them I hate that demented grandpa. They found it strange and told me don't mind people that much, but I was very strict about him. After 1 month, I realized that some of his ideas are deserve to be valued. For example, he told us university should serve students more. He criticized systems, told how they must be. And when the time I really thought this man has a good side was he told us about his wife. Man, this man really loves his wife. He told us he hates cucumbers but he ate a salad cucumber inside that his wife prepared last evening. While he was talking about his wife he smiled, his eyes sparkled, he was playing with his keychain, he was like a little child who tells his first love to his mother. I liked that. He is not bad though. He must have a good side in himself. Then I noticed that he is old and he needs help. I helped him, carried his heavy bag everyday and started to participate his lessons. Helped him in technological issues. He softened. He was not like before. He was very pleasured. At the end of the term he thanked me and gave me some advices. We said goodbye in a very formal way. You can imagine it as overrated, respectful af delta behaviour.

TLDR (but you had better read the full story please) 8 years ago, when we were 16, my first love and I dated for 6 months, we broke up because my family didn't approve. I continued talking to him secretly, but my family caught me and beat me. I told him my family beat me. Then he lied to me about cheating on me. 4 years later, he texted to me and told me the truth, but he was depressed and I was afraid of my family. I don't want him to be sad because of me again. I lied to him that I had a boyfriend. 4 years later, I texted him. I told him I had no boyfriend at that time. We started to talk again. He remembered every detail about me down to the smallest ones, he said he looked for me in everywhere. He said he still had feelings for me. But when I told him I wanted to start a relationship with him again, it turned out he already had a girlfriend. I blocked him, did the right thing, but now I'm very sad.

Full story:

I am a 24-year-old woman. 8 years ago, when I was 16, I had a boyfriend who was the same age. We were each other's first love. We dated for 6 months, and we broke up because my family opposed the relationship. My family was very angry with him. But I kept talking him secretly. Then my family beat me up for that reason. I told him my family did this because I kept talking with him. He lied about he cheated on me with his cousin (that was a ridiculous lie) We experienced a sad broke up. Four years later, he texted to me. I rejected him out of fear of my family. I even said I had a boyfriend because I felt sorry for him. This was a lie. I wanted him to forget about me and move on with his life. Because at that time, he was depressed. I always wondered about him, but I couldn't ask. Four years later, finally I seperated from my family and got a job. While talking to my friends about our first loves, he came to my mind, and I texted him, "How are you?" I did not have any expectations because it had been years. I just wanted to see him happy and healthy. He replied to my message right away. He said he moved to America. He said he was looking for me everywhere. He showed me people he had texted, thinking it was me, until only a three months ago. He even asked to my account that I no longer use, whether I had finished university. He said he wanted to talk with me again. I had no intention of getting back together with him until he said this. We started talking. We talked on the phone for 3-4 hours a day, flirting like we used to. We talked about our memories. I told him that I had actually lied about not having a boyfriend four years ago, just because I wanted him to be happy. He said no worries. He reminded my teen years. He remembered everything about me, even the smallest details. I don't remember many things about him because it had been 8 years. It made me so happy that he still remembers. After talking for 1 week, I wanted to finish a unfinished story. He didn't give me any clarity, so I said it couldn't be like this. He told me three days before I texted to him, he had started a relationship with a girl. He showed me the girl. I told him you should have told me. He said "talking about the past with you made me happy, my memories with you are very special to me, I didn't want to ruin that, that's why I couldn't tell you." He was saying we shouldn't stop talking even driving to his girlfriend's place. He said it was "friendly" talk between he and me. He denied about our flirtation. I told him that he was cheating on her with me and blocked him. This was a really difficult decision for me and it still hurts because I still have feelings for him, but I think I did the right thing. I cannot be the side chick nor be the woman who causes cheating. However, I don't know how to get over it.