Going “undercover”
Hello Exvangelicals! Please delete if not allowed.
I (20sF) have been invited to accompany my best friend “Jason” (20sM) to a church service and family gathering afterwards this weekend.
He was raised very religious, but is an atheist now. He is also gay but obviously is not out of the closet to his family/church community. He plans to cut ties with them once he graduates, but his family is funding his degree at the university we both attend.
He’s asked me to come with him as a support person, but he also hopes that me being a woman will quiet down some of the “when are you going to settle down with a girl” type questions. I am more than willing to do this, and even be introduced as his girlfriend if need be.
That said, while I’m there, I want to look (and talk) the part so they feel comfortable with me and don’t ask too many questions. I went to a Methodist church infrequently as a kid so I know the basics but I’ve never been to an Evangelical service before. What should I wear, other than just like ”not a club fit” lol? Also should I take out my nose ring? Whats the best way to talk to these people that will make me an acceptable but unremarkable presence? Any help or advice you guys have would be great. Thanks!