My parents hid a serious lifelong immune disorder which affected my private parts. I recently found out I was diagnosed quite young, and my parents did not treat it knowing it would affect my ability to have children and affect my sex life once I grew older.
The result is extensive scarring and labial fusion, so I no longer have that one part (iykyk) that allows for pleasure.
I only discovered this through my aunt after forcing my parents hand to give me information on what happened to me as a child. My mom says she "forgot about it", and my dad is claiming he didn't deal with that type of stuff and trusted my mom. My mom later changed her story to "Oh I wanted to have faith that God would heal it and didn't want to claim that over you.
My question is, has anyone experienced parents hiding a serious medical diagnosis?
My fear is they didn't treat it because that would mean frequently seeing a gyno during childhood and they wanted to keep the SA that was happening at home hidden. Though they deny SA happened, I fear it makes so much sense why they would hide such a serious condition.
I strongly suspect childhood SA because of various factors, some including bed wetting until 10 years old, it was so bad they put a machine on me at night that would shock me if I wet the bed. Did not talk until 3 years old. Nightmares since early childhood about SA. History of rape/incest that happened to both my parents. A sneaking suspicion of my dad's abuse for years. I have always felt uncomfortable with my dad being around children. And a whole list more, but those are just a few.
They are trying very hard to gaslight me and deny my experiences, though everything seems to point to this one thing.
Any thoughts would be appreciated!