roommate always wants to share
I got close to my friend's little sister about two years ago and earlier this year, she moved in the house I share with a few other girls. Funnily enough, I wasn't even the one to coordinate her moving in-- It was my roommate who I introduced her to maybe a year-ish prior. They really hit it off when she came over to visit the first time, so once we had a spare room available, she offered it up to her. I, of course, was super onboard with this because hey! I love my friend! She's awesome! I was excited to have her around more.
As time has gone on though, I've started to grow a bit annoyed with some of her tendencies that never really showed up before in our friendship. The most aggravating, by far, is that she will ask for you to share every. single. sharable. thing. you possibly have on you at a given time. It's not just like, the occasional "Hey! Can I have a bite?" either. Literally every single time something is sharable, she will ask for you to share it with her. Food, drinks, clothes (ex. I was talking to her and my other roommate about returning a pair of shoes that I bought because I wasn't sure if they were worth the price that I paid and she immediately asked if she could have them instead + I know that she wouldn't have paid me the full price that I paid for them because she consistently says that she doesn't have any money), w**d (which she has SPECIFICALLY TOLD US that she cannot partake in), everything. It's really started to get on my nerves, especially because there are times where I tell her no, and she makes a quip like "Alright well f me I guess." If I bring out anything close to her, she will stare longingly at it and then once there's millisecond of silence, that's the request comes. It's getting pretty exhausting and no matter how many times I tell her no, she still continues to ask.
How do I bring it up to her that this is getting a bit out of hand? I asked my roommate (the one that offered her the room) to see if she had noticed that behavior too and she said that she had, but that she had seen her do it at a much higher frequency to me. I don't want to ruin our friendship or make her nervous, as she truly is a joy to have around, but I think... Maybe she just needs to learn how to read a room better lol or space out her requests. I don't quite know how to tell her this without sounding like a jerk.
