Before responding to a post please check the karma. If it is a new account or low karma account report the post. Do not engage. Explanation for why: https://www.reddit.com/r/WomenDatingOverForty/s/G4ADZTM3D0
I get email notifications from Nextdoor. If you aren't familiar it's an app where people share local/neighborhood news and ask for recommendations and advice.
This showed up this morning. I blacked out the name but it is of Middle Eastern origin.
Can it get any worse? Does he want a girlfriend, mommy or personal assistant?
You couldn't pay me enough.
Way more men are on the DL then most women are aware of.
I have a friend in her 50s who got married last year after being widowed for a long time. The guy she married is a pretty good catch as far as men go and it was a good financial decision for her. One thing I noticed about the way she treats him is that she's always a little bit mean. I don't ever think I've seen her be sweet or doting towards him. He seems to love it.
When I think about it most of the 'successful' relationships I've seen, where the wife is at least content, have this dynamic.
It would take a lot of mental effort for me to act this way towards a partner. It doesn't come naturally and it isn't something I'm interested in doing. I don't think I would respect a man that seems to enjoy his own belittlement. It would make him instantly unattractive to me.
Personally I enjoy being doted on and the princess treatment and I equally enjoy doing kind and thoughtful things for a man - when it's appreciated.
Sadly, this has never been sustainable in any relationship I've ever had.
Do you find it easy to be a little bit mean?
