I (45f) have a date tonight at 8pm with a (48m). We are just texting and I asked him what he’s up to today and he says ‘spring cleaning my apartment, boring but at least I have some nice tequila to make it tolerable’.
Yea I’m not a day drinker and I’ve definitely never drank while cleaning.
Is this a red flag?
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I was going to ask this on the bumble post from yesterday but then I didn't want to seem I was hijacking her post.
What do you all think of this new feature on Hinge? Where the person chooses the date that is prefilled on the other person's profile.
Personally Hinge is my least favorite dating app in general, which is basically the same as ranking piles of dog crap.
I also think the feature is making it where the men don't have to plan a date or ask.
I want to know a man shows effort and knows I have a life of my own, ask me out in advance.
Which in many ways Hinge has tried to mask the ineptitude men have with dating by not allowing people to have a bio but asking them direct questions in lieu of a bio.
Because when they had bios they put "just ask". Outsourcing labor onto women and not putting in any effort.
This is why every woman should NOT communicate. Accept men as they are or leave.
If you communicate or ask him to do stuff you are then a nag to him.
And some men will even say you are crazy/manic/bipolar/borderline personality.
We all know it. Please chime in if a man as ever called you "crazy" for wanting something very reasonable.
Read "the yellow wallpaper" or look into Cassandra for more info on men calling women crazy for hundreds of years.
Good songs "Labor" by Paris Paloma or "dog's dinner" by Sofia Isella.
And every story needs a villain. Husband needs the wife to be the villain so he can be the happy, innocent, go with the flow husband and she is the joy kill wife.
I put the lyrics to the song in a comment below, remember these lyrics are EXACTLY how men see you when you ask him to do stuff, they see it as bitching. Just go silent and leave.
As one woman wrote yesterday in a comment: I absolutely refuse to initiate communication about anything he should have already learned.
After all the other Bumble fumbles so far, I have little faith that this will be of any value for women who are still using the apps.
What’s next? Avatars and RPG style dating apps? I have a sinking suspicion that AI will essentially be used to polish up the profiles of mediocre - or outright awful - men, and as a lazy way for them to boost their terrible communication skills (eliminating the filthy or aggressive talk to basically prevent women from discovering misogynists before meeting).
Thoughts?
I have a friend in her 50s who got married last year after being widowed for a long time. The guy she married is a pretty good catch as far as men go and it was a good financial decision for her. One thing I noticed about the way she treats him is that she's always a little bit mean. I don't ever think I've seen her be sweet or doting towards him. He seems to love it.
When I think about it most of the 'successful' relationships I've seen, where the wife is at least content, have this dynamic.
It would take a lot of mental effort for me to act this way towards a partner. It doesn't come naturally and it isn't something I'm interested in doing. I don't think I would respect a man that seems to enjoy his own belittlement. It would make him instantly unattractive to me.
Personally I enjoy being doted on and the princess treatment and I equally enjoy doing kind and thoughtful things for a man - when it's appreciated.
Sadly, this has never been sustainable in any relationship I've ever had.
Do you find it easy to be a little bit mean?
I jokingly called a man a "Stage 5 Hobosexual" and a woman asked for the different stages. In this video, I provide it—listing out the exact pipeline from a "Snack Bandit" to a full-blown domestic squatter.
It starts small: a man who has his own place but treats your home like a free grocery store. But without boundaries, that Stage 1 entitlement quickly slides into the "No-Drawer Boyfriend" phase, and eventually, the Stage 5 "Squatter-Narc" who uses manipulation and weaponized incompetence to stay on your couch.