Was the unprofessional/illegal?
My fiancé (M21) and myself (F20) work together at a camp resort in Texas. I have a supervisor position and my fiancé has a similar role. We have both shown up every day and completed tasks that are required of us. He deals a lot less with guests than me, and it suits us because I’m very bubbly and outgoing and he’s more serious. We rarely go out of our way to see each other as we keep a very strict professional only relationship at work together and there’s never been an issue. Recently my Fiancé has started looking for a new job, but has remained completing tasks the exact same. Today one of the mangers told me that fiancé clearly is terrible at his job and I should recommend to him that he looks for something new. They asked that I speak to him about his work ethics once we got home, and the only reason they have yet to talk to him is because they’re scared to lose me too. I feel embarrassed and also very angry, I know i may have a small bias but I haven’t noticed any big issues that warrants for such a strong opinion, and I feel like it’s very unprofessional to ask me to take this matter home and open up an issue between me and him. I did tell him, but he’s been extremely upset since (I haven’t pushed hard, I would be upset too!) he said he’s putting his two weeks in when he works again, but now I’m left feeling like a middle man and like there’s work tension in a home from a job that I keep strictly at work. While I did express to my managers I know it’s not personal, I do feel like it was unprofessional and want to know if there’s anything backing my feelings or if my manger was completely in the right to ask that of me.
Keep in mind we work two completely different departments and there’s a strict policy that supervisors are not allowed to be “in charge of” other supervisors. Work place privacy is a huge deal anywhere as well