r/WorkAdvice

ive been going to this job that my friend reffered me to ive been working there for about two weeks now got my first paycheck and all but now i got summer school for two weeks thats from monday to friday, only problem is i work during friday and i cant miss summer school since next year i want to get into a new school since the one im in is pretty crappy with people not wanting to go far in life now this isnt the issue my parent want to go on vacation for one week wich will mean ill miss 5 days of work in total i just need help to know what to do since its pretty stressfull and i really need the job and cant quit since already finding a job during this period as a teenager is extremly difficult TL;DR: how can i tell my boss ill miss 5 days of work because of a vacation and summer school

I’m a more junior member on the team and I’ve been asked to lead some cross-functional meetings every month with a lot of global partners. After the last meeting, he suggested we meet 1 on 1 so he can coach me more on how to drive the meetings. He said it felt like there was some gaps in the dialogue. He framed it like it was great idea to take him up on, so I was all for it.

Today, I meet with him and he seemed in a bad mood. He reads over my slide deck I prepared. Adds like one sentence to a slide. And says he has nothing to add, seems low risk and good to go. The meeting only lasted 20 mins.

I walked out feeling pretty disappointed. I even mentioned, hey I know you said there was some gaps last time, how could I communicate better? And he just said meh it’s fine his low risk. Am I the only one that thinks the whole thing is weird? Why would he even bother asking me to meet?

Looking for actual repeatable tactics here, not just motivation. If your heart rate used to spike every time you had to speak in public and now it's under control, what specifically changed that for you?

No links, just the steps that actually worked.

Hi, I’m 16F and fairly new to this job. I’m a receptionist for a law firm and one of the attorneys I work for is always busy. I mean always. Even when I think I see an availability in his calendar and I try to book a brief phone call with someone he always shuts it down and says he’s going to be busy. He works in family law and his clients call more than any other attorneys’ at the firm. They are almost always upset (most are dealing with a divorce or custody case) and are demanding to speak with their attorney ASAP. I don’t know what to tell them except “I’ll take a message” because I feel like I can’t do much more than that. Sometimes even giving him a message is difficult because I can never find a time when he’s free to talk to him. I want to find a way to handle these situations to fit the attorney’s needs while not making the clients any more upset than they already are. Is that possible? It’s not my intention to come across as rude to either the attorney or the clients so I’m sorry if it comes across that way. I understand that these people are going through very emotional times and I want to help them the best I can.

So I (25F) work in corporate medical/retail store for 3 years. I started at 13.50 and currently make 15.85 as a supervisor/store key holder. I am also in a program with the company to become licensed in my field.

I recently applied for the assistant manager position ($17.50) but I withdrew because the workload does not match the pay. I would be handling customer service and store numbers while studying for said program which is essentially college courses. On top of that, if I accept AM position and am on course to be licensed in November, and get hired as a license as well, I will then be doing License work and AM work all for solely license pay (I would be bumped up to that pay but no extra for also working as an AM).

On Saturday I was closing with a new hire and found out that her and the other 2 (all 18) new hires, that I have been training, are making $16.50. I fully understand that minimum wage has been raising so starting pay has as well. I also don’t think they should be paid less by any means, I’m happy they’re getting a livable wage for their age. However I don’t understand how I could be getting paid less than the person I’m teaching. I already don’t believe I get paid enough for all that I do. This means I am the least- paid employee even tho I have been here 2nd longest, and have the most responsibilities besides the manager. How do I go about this respectfully? Cause right now I’m pissed off

A few months ago my PC went down, it needs some new hardware and I haven't gotten around to it yet. in the meantime, I have been using my work laptop during off hours to access Xbox Cloud Gaming. Occasionally it would say site blocked, but only if another work related app was running... Until tonight.

I came back inside from smoking to continue playing when I got the disconnection notice, I refreshed the page, site blocked. I restarted and made sure chrome was the only app actively running, still blocked.

This makes me worried that I'm gonna be in trouble when I come into work tomorrow. But should I be worried? It was not during work hours using a reputable website owned by a billion dollar corporation, so I can't see why I would be reprimanded.

I 19m recently got my first job in a small corner shop thats run by some distant relatives. The thing is I feel like im being taken advantage of. Firstly i have no free time at all, and by free time meaning i work 6 days a week for 13 hours daily. The job itself is not that intensive except for a few briefs periods and extra responsibilties I have but still, its very draining and as soon as i reach home i just sleep until the next day to work again. I work for below minimum wage and my pay has been slashed twice already(nothing to do with my performance or anything), which is not a problem as im striaght out of school and unskilled and its a pretty good opportunity but still, I feel like i desereve a bit more. So i was thinking of taking a bit extra, not enough to harm the business or anything but it just sucks. Also the amount i was planning to take wouldnt even put me on mimimum wage so theres that.

Im not a bad person or stolen a thing in my life before so thats why i feel so hesistant, but at the same time i feel like im being taken advantage of and used for the labour and what im expected to do and the time im expected to be there all day.

Edit: Ive receieved alot of replies already about finding another job, yes i am on the hunt but its just not possible and yes i know it is possible but just trust me when i say i wont be finding another job soon. So just keep that in mind when giving the replies. Also people telling me to just quit, I find that to be a very privelleged take. yes ofc i can quit but please consider the nuance. I come from a very low income background and some of the money i earn is going to helping my mom buy food for us

hello 24 Female here still in uni.

A supervisor of another department asking whether I am virgin or not just inappropriate or harassment?

office setting Finance department- University

my complaint to HR is in progress but needed feedback whether I am overreacting or not .

personally I felt so so weird also I am student employee too and supervisor who asked me is aged 46

So I was working for this place through an agency for a couple years then they wanted to hire me on. After I started working there my name and title changed so I asked my supervisor if she could change it in the computer and that’s where she figured that I’d probably have a problem with her misspelling my name. So once she started spelling my name wrong I started correcting it on the daily schedule so I showed her that I cared about it. Then I let go and tried to ignore it but she would spell it right then spell it wrong if I called in or something. I finally confronted her and it stopped but then she would do it every blue moon through text so I confronted her again and so now instead of misspelling my name now she leaves off my credentials and does it to no one else. She found my weakness so now I don’t know what to do because I like my job. Should I go to her boss or do you think it will make things worse?

I have a coworker who literally comes into work and sits in the back and does nothing until the mid shift person leaves. No one else at my job gets to do this just this one person. It's getting old, I have to sit and deal with the customers all day while this person does absolutely nothing. You can't say anything to them either, it's ridiculous. I'm at my wits end. I just wanna break too. But Lord forbid I take one.

My mom works for special needs adults in a group care home. I am also autistic, but I am not needing of those services and I can mostly function on my own with a little assistance, so I also understand the prespective of the special needs adults as well.

I am visiting because I was dropping off food from walmart so she could make dinner, and then she gave me some dinner as well.

While here, one of the clients was turning the lights on and off, and slamming a door. She then yelled at one of the clients, very loudly and very rudely. It scared me a little, which if it scares me a little bit, what is it going to do to others who have higher needs than me. The client she yelled at then yelled at her.

My family also needs money, and her loosing her job would be a moderate impact, however my dad also ears a decent amount so it isn't going to be a complete end game. She enjoys her work as well, but doesn't feel she fits in.

I am thinking of telling my therapist tomorrow since she works for the same company as my mom and she can get it to the right people, but I also don't have enough evidance, and want more data before I make a big accusation.

I'm not sure what to do and need help.

I work at a semi-small family-owned pizza shop that employs probably 100 people across all three locations and our bakery. I've worked for the company for around 2 years, and I really love my job and almost all of my coworkers. I have been considered for a promotion a few times, but because my availability is limited, I've been passed over for someone with a more flexible schedule.

The coworker, whom I'll call Anne, was hired about six months after me. I was already working my way to a promotion by then, and while I was really shy, I knew I was really a part of the team and well-liked by everybody (still mostly true).

Anne and I really hit it off in the beginning, as we had a lot of things in common and our personalities just generally worked as a duo. She was pretty good at the job from the beginning, and after she was trained, I felt a lot like we were equals (I worked only 3 days a week whereas she's full time, so my skills/experience built much slower).

However, after a few months, she suddenly started avoiding me, acting short with me, and nitpicking everything I did and going to one of our managers (whom everybody dislikes) about every breath I took. She developed a sort of nose-in-the-air attitude, like she was better than everybody, but she seemed to treat me especially different. I started getting really anxious and stressed out when I was on shift with her, always wondering what she was going to get me in trouble for next, which led me to make more mistakes than on shifts without her. I had to go home sick a couple of times because the stress was affecting me so much.

Back in October-November, I got an announcement on our schedule app that she was going to be a supervisor. And I >!threw up everything I ate.!< I had one of the worst panic attacks of my life, and nearly quit my job on the spot.

She makes me feel like I'm totally beneath her, and like I'm a horrible person just for existing in the same space as her. I have no idea what I did to deserve this kind of treatment, especially considering we went from getting along really well to not getting along at all.

She recently did something (I won't go into specific detail, but it just highlighted how terrible of a person she is) and the entire staff has beef with her. And many of them have come to me to say they see what I was trying to say all along. She's been making nice with all of our other coworkers because almost everyone stopped engaging in her drama, but not me.

She talks bad about everybody behind their backs, even going as far as to actually insult them to other people. I mostly ignore her when she's around, but because she's my direct superior, I have to listen to her enough to not get myself into trouble. I think she knows this because she'll delegate every task she can to me while basically standing around talking with my other coworkers. The only times she's helped me while I was drowning on my station was when it could make her look better and me look incompetent. Apparently, she's been talking especially bad about me, but I don't know the extent of what she's saying (I do plan to ask around and find out, however, so I can decide if I should be concerned or not)

I've asked her directly several times if there's something I did that's upsetting her, and the answer is always the same: it's not me, she just has something going on and it's affecting her emotionally. Every. Single. Time. I'm really starting to feel like her punching bag

I don't know if this is something I *can* bring to HR. I trust the coworkers that came to tell me what she's doing and that they see the way I'm being treated, but our HR lady has brushed me off a few times in the past, so I'm hesitant to bring something like this to her. I can talk to our GM, and he'll at least have some good advice on what I should do, but I don't want to bother him with something like this because he's very anti-drama. I've also been really afraid she'll retaliate in some kind of way and make things even harder for me or try to push me into quitting.

Should I ask the coworkers that came to talk to me to help me talk to HR and/or the GM, or try to handle it on my own? Is it even with trying to handle with the upper management? I don't want to sound bitter/spiteful because she was chosen over me for the promotion like I think they suspect, but I don't want the continued tension either. And is there any way to word it so it comes off as professional rather than just complaining?

Tl:dr my coworker, Anne, has been treating me like I'm completely beneath her, talking tons of shit about me behind my back, and giving me extreme anxiety and panic attacks just from being on the same shift. I don't have the confidence HR will handle it because I've been brushed off in the past, but I really feel like it needs to be addressed. I've tried addressing it directly with Anne, and she's said there's no problem but continues to treat me terribly.

I was sent on a three-day work trip with a coworker that involved two six-hour drives together and long workdays.

During the drives, he constantly talked, sang songs, switched into exaggerated high-pitched voices, and then he would look over at me after doing it as though he was waiting for a reaction. He also regularly brought up stories about his mother, often recreating conversations or quoting her in different voices.

At one point he kept getting my attention by bumping my arm. It happened 5 times during one drive before he noticed I was flinching. He asked, “You don’t like when I do this?” I said, “Yeah, I don’t like it.” He laughed for like 15 solid seconds but, to his credit, he didn’t do it again.

He’s also been talking about retiring ever since I’ve known him. He regularly jokes that I’ll be doing his job next year, introduces me as the person who’ll replace him, and somehow works retirement into conversations almost daily.
(For context: I asked my manager who would replace him if he actually retired because he talks about it so much. My manager laughed and said he’d apparently been saying he was going to retire for years, never actually does, and that if he ever did retire they’d simply hire someone else. So the whole “you’re replacing me” thing seems to be entirely his own narrative.)

After one particularly long workday, I decided to have dinner alone in my hotel room. The next day he said things like, “You probably wanted to get away from me,” and “I bet you’re happy you don’t have to be in the car with me anymore.”

He also knew I’d previously been run over in an accident and still made jokes about getting run over or crashing the car.

After the trip, he started messaging me updates like his Instagram follower count (“Only x amount of followers until retirement”), what projects he’d worked on that day, instructions he’d received from other coworkers about projects I wasn’t involved in, comments about hearing birds outside, animals in his backyard, the weather… (All this during work hours…I understand small talk but this might be a little too much?)

By the end of three days, I felt more mentally exhausted from the nonstop interaction than from the actual work.

Edited to add what I do that seems to work sometimes:

I try to reframe conversations around work as much as I can

He said : « Thanks for the great road trip » I replied: « Thanks for driving – it was a great work trip »

Everyone at my job meets with HR every 6 months to discuss how the job is going and to make any necessary changes. For the first time since I started working this job I finally answered honestly that my boss doesn’t communicate much with me. When I reach out to her I rarely hear back at all. She doesn’t respond to emails, Teams messages and didn’t train me on very basic things.

Well after expressing this, HR immediately said that she was going to relay this information to my boss via email. I was not CCd on this email so I have no idea what was said.

Ever since then, my boss has been rude to me. I’m beginning to think I will lose my job because she seems to hate me. I regret saying anything to HR. I genuinely thought they wanted to know so they could improve things in our department and that it would be anonymous. That was clearly not the case.

If you became friends with a former coworker after working together, and they constantly brought up all the mistakes you made at work, even though they made plenty of mistakes themselves—how would you react? Especially when they keep reminding you to treat people properly and act professionally, even though you already know how to do your job and treat others with respect.

How would you respond in that situation?

It’s a big celebration today for my best friend and I’m decorating and organizing however my boss only believes emergencies are worth skipping work. So I said my sister (who’s pregnant) is going to give birth which isn’t a big lie she is soon- and that I’m gonna be watching my niece today I feel guilty but I covered
Up Well and my sister is gonna give birth soon so.. not sure if I’m in the wrong? It’s a minimum wage job and I’m the only Employee I’ve called off vacations and so much things for it, even my own birthday. I’m just calling off to leave 1.5 hour eearlier also ITS NOT A HOLIDAY For me I live far from America

I got sacked after replying to “don’t u ask me questions” with a “I’m not here to be interrogated”.
Then got sacked, 15 minutes later proceeded to phone me (he’s 35 and I’m 18) and state he’s gonna kick my head in and that I’m a “spastic” and a “dog”.
I’m going to the shop to collect my wage but is there any routes of authority for a cash in hand, no contract job.
The owner brings in stock from his other branches (which is illegal), he doesn’t pay gas (which is illegal), he took down “To-Let” signs from his property because it’s not in the real shops name (which is illegal), I have so many things I can pull him on, but almost no knowledge as to who to go to. Any ideas or thoughts would be helpful

He claimed he couldn’t understand me , which is BS since I left my full name, work ID and department. He then played my voicemail to my girlfriend that also works there claiming he couldn’t tell if it was me. Is this not a violation? HIPAA or otherwise?

I don't wanna go over a certain amount of hours due to possibility of losing benefits and wasn't going to take that shift due to my phone autocorrecting and saying sure instead of sorry no what should I do