u/CheezustheCat

Okay so I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and finally met his family abroad last month. I genuinely think they are really weird and I don’t know if I’m overreacting. Before this trip I’d barely spoken to them, and only phone calls because they live in a really remote area and my boyfriend moved away years ago.

At first they just seemed very intense. They’re all extremely close, finish each other’s sentences and constantly talk about “protecting the family’s energy” and “fear based thinking.”

Nobody argues. Ever. If someone says something awkward everyone just smiles and changes the subject. Also every single time the dad laughed, everyone else laughed instantly too even when it wasn’t funny. It genuinely started creeping me out.

Every night at dinner everyone had to leave their phones on the kitchen counter because the dad says technology “interrupts human frequency.”Nobody locks doors either. Not bedrooms or bathrooms. His mum actually got offended when I locked the bathroom and asked if I was “afraid of the family.”

Everything there was weirdly controlled. Everyone woke up at 4am together every day, ate together, went on walks together etc. Even if someone just needed groceries, suddenly EVERYONE was going together in the dad’s car.

Also this might sound random but they’ve apparently never had pets despite being a massive family with a huge house. I mentioned it while I was there and his dad immediately went “Noooo, no way.”Like genuinely disgusted. Then laughed (all of them)

One night his sister casually mentioned she’s never had a bank account because “the family handles finances together.”

Also, I know my boyfriend and I have an age gap (which is okay with me) but I’m starting to deep that as well, because all relationships in his family are the same, for example his sister is 28f and her boyfriend is 45m.

This might only be freaking me out because I come from a really small, pretty normal family? Or because i watch too many movies but I honestly can’t tell if they’re just extremely intense or if something genuinely unhealthy is going on but the whole trip felt really weird by the end.

posting on a burner for obvious reasons. for reference, i have literally the lowest sex drive ever, but i think it would be higher if i had a partner that actually paid attention to me. at the beginning he would actually TRY to make me feel good and we had sex way more because it was enjoyable but the last 5 years it’s been all about him busting and then were done lol. when i say he does nothing to try to satisfy me i mean nothing😂 not even a finger on the clit like nothing at all LMFAO. i’ve brought up multiple times and he uses the excuse that we have a kid now (just turned 2) and we don’t have privacy (which is true) but like i literally told him i dont even care about busting a nut it’s more about just trying to make it enjoyable for me too. also for reference i lost every lb of pregnancy weight i gained so i dont think its about like attraction i just dont think he thinks making me feel good is important. i told him it’s been 5 years since he made me c*m and asked “doesn’t that bother you?” and he said no😭 i’m like super hurt by this lol. sex isn’t super important to me but im not stupid and i know it’s a big part of marriage. other than that we have a solid marriage and most of the other issues we have, he works on for me so i don’t really know what to think of this lol