AITA - selfish or betrayal
my former manager (Mary) left our store in March to be the Store manager elsewhere, and she asked me to go with her after she had been there for like a month as her assistant store manager and I was like yeah OK great.
So fast forward I interview with her boss who’s the district manager and Mary comes back to me a few days later and says that her boss liked me but she wanted to interview more people before making a decision before the end of May.
This morning I get a text from my coworker/friend (Lana) who tells me that she put in her two week notice at our job and her last day is May 28. I asked her where she’s going and Lana tells me that she’s going to work with Mary and I asked what position and she says:
I got the ASM position.
- Lana never told me she was interviewing or interested. She randomly texted me a pic of her resignation, ignored my texts and calls for a while, and then finally said where she was going and then changed the topic.
- I’d confided in her about how Mary was being kinda weird since the interview I had but insisted she was just busy. And Lana told me she was sad to hear that because we’re all so close.
- Had she told me she was interviewing, I could’ve been a friend and cheered her on and then celebrated the news she told me today instead of feeling played and betrayed.
Lana and Mary think I’m being an asshole by not celebrating her accomplishment and making it about myself.
AITA for being hurt and not praising her in this moment?