u/ChemicalBall4924

Hey I’m just on here seeking some advice. My mother is a drug addict and an alcoholic, she has been that way my whole life up until now. She has now been sober for over a year. Me and my mother do not have a good relationship and it’s only getting worse. I have been dealing with her drinking, recklessness and stupidity my whole life and now that she is sober she expects a relationship with me. I have tried to have somewhat of a relationship with her and it never goes well. She is a mentally unstable 49 year old woman, she has severe depression, severe anxiety and ADD. I believe that the years of drinking and drugs have fried her brain even more.I hate coming home. Everytime I come home I get yelled at or criticized or guilt tripped. I told her in the past I would consider having a relationship with her when she “gets her shit together” but she hasn’t and continues to prove that everyday. She dosnt have a job, her room is disgusting (she’s also a hoarder), all of the rooms in our house are filled with shit she hasn’t touched in years. Now a little about me, I am 21 with a full time job and I keep myself busy, I have narcolepsy but I still manage to keep up with chores around the house and work. I will say I have a very monotoned voice that can come off as bitchy or rude, I didn’t realize the way I spoke came off that way until I was older. I am also very blunt with how I talk, I don’t like to walk around something that’s in my mind I just say stuff out front. My mother cannot comprehend how I talk, she thinks that I’m extremely rude all the time when that is just the way I talk to everybody. She does not respect me, all she does is complain about me and yell and guilt trip me as soon as I walk in the door. I have tried the “baby” talk where I’m very careful with how I word things and try and talk in a lighter tone but it does not work. She believes I owe her a relationship and other things because she’s my mother. I am grateful she brought me into this world and I have told her this, and even though she is my mother I do not “owe” her anything. I have been taking care of her my whole life and I’m tired. I don’t want to come home but I don’t have enough money to move out. I don’t know how to help her because she rejects everything I say. Even as I was writing this she came in my room and told me how she’s suicidal and wants to drink again and how I don’t help her and how our whole family is “kicking her out”. This has been a problem for over 20 years she’s been to countless rehabs, she has a therapist and is medicated. I feel so stuck. Any advice?

Hello I am a 21 year old woman with type 2 narcolepsy, I found out I had narcolepsy when I was 19 years old, so I guess pretty recently. I’m still learning how to work around my narcolepsy in social settings and at work etc. I don’t know anyone that has narcolepsy nor do any of my family members have narcolepsy. I find it very draining to be social and go out especially after working but I want to have a life. I get good sleep most nights even though I don’t usually get 10 hours. On my days off I sleep sometimes 12-16 hours, so I waste my days off. I’m currently on Armodafinil 250mg and sunosi 150mg. I’m just trying to seek advice on what narcoleptic people do to feel normal. I want to be able to do what normal 21 year old women do. I know that there’s not much I can do but I would like to get some feedback on how other people cope with narcolepsy in general.