Am I the asshole for exploding on my dad about his constant criticism of my automobile?
i’m in the asshole for blowing up on my dad the other day after continuously telling him to not comment on my car?
For some context, we didn’t grow up poor but also not with a lot of money. My parents never really contributed anything to my education or buying my first house, etc. nor did they contribute to buying my first car. I’ve owned a few cars but for the past 15 years, I have owned a very reliable Japanese automobile. It is a pretty well-known car. It’s a small model, but I love it. And the entire time I’ve had it. It’s never given me any trouble and I really love driving it. When certain family members see me driving it they always laugh and say wow are you still driving that same car? As of the past few years, my father has constantly commented on my car. Specifically in the past year, he has commented on it every single time I’ve been to his house. He always says why are you still driving this car and why aren’t you getting a new car yet? For some more context, I do make a bit of money not a ton, but I’m definitely not poor. I live on my own and don’t have any kids. This car is fully paid for is very fuel. Efficient has been safe and reliable. In the time I’ve had this car. My parents have gone through three Cadillacs. Every time I talk to them. them something else is wrong with their car or the brakes or the transmission or the air-conditioning. Meanwhile, my car has reliable. The last few times I went to my dad‘s house. I actually got very angry for him commenting on my car, especially since my parents have never given me any financial. Support. I am in my mid 40s and I really think it’s insane that he keeps commenting on this. My mom just stands to the side and doesn’t say anything. This weekend it was a family members funeral and we all went to the funeral and I’m sure my dad was embarrassed that people saw me driving this old car when everyone around me seems to have brand new BMW‘s Mercedes, etc. Upon leaving my parents house after the funeral lunch, my dad said to me again when are you going to get a new car? I literally blew up on him even though my uncle was there. I told my dad that he has no right to comment on my car that he has no right to be criticizing it when it’s actually better than his car and just because it’s not a shiny new Cadillac it doesn’t mean that it’s not good. I commented that it’s actually really just starting to strike me that he must be materialistic and be worried about what other people think about my car to be commenting on it. He then commented that he just thinks it’s not safe and when I prompted him to tell me what part of my car he thought wasn’t safe. He could not give me an answer. Now we aren’t talking because he told me that I was being rude and that I was giving him shit even though he didn’t do anything wrong. Am I the asshole here?