Dealing with wife with Anger issues. Need advice.
Hi, as the title says, I'm married to a woman, 27F, who has a lot of anger issues. I myself am a calm person and won't get angry normally without a reason. But when provoked, I can hardly keep myself calm. Whenever we have a fight, she says so many things that pierce straight through my heart, and when I lose my calm, she holds onto it and blames me in front of our families, saying that I said so and so. Last time we had an argument, she threatened to call the cops on me. She doesn't see her mistakes. She has a couple of friends who used to meddle with her and give her all sorts of rubbish advice. I asked her to cut them off from her life. She has argued with me so many times about that and still talks to them when I'm not at home. She also does not hesitate to call my mom and argue with her. I talked to her mom about this, and she started lecturing me to be kind to her. Every effort I make goes down the drain at that moment. We have two kids, and a third is on the way, and I'm having a hard time with this lady. I don't see any future with her, and I'm barely able to look at her with love and generosity. I'm as distant from her as I could be. Even when things look normal between us, there's a feeling of disgust and enmity within me. I can't brush off this grudge. Every little thing she said still resonates inside my head. I want to divorce her if this goes on and move on with my life. I need peace and don't think she can provide it. What do I do here? How do I prepare for a potential divorce? We are currently in the USA, originally from India.