affair partner “stepmom” - how do I move forward after such hostility?
my sons dad cheated on me at 8 months pregnant with his coworker and I caught them red-handed in the act. she knew I was pregnant and didn’t give one crap. she tried to hide it from me and was actively perusing him before I caught them.
fast-forward over a year later, she tried to talk to me through dad’s phone with a phony ass apology that basically insinuated that I was the problem and saying that “we need to talk things out and resolve our conflict.” Yea right… mind you I’ve never come face-to-face with this woman, talked to her, and every time she’d see me through a window she’d run.
She put false restraining orders on me that I got set aside. For awhile, the police are always in my phone because of “incidents” that they scapegoat me for that I’ve always proved with evidence of no involvement on my behalf. CPS actually got involved with her because she was supposedly drinking and driving with him in the truck and the video didn’t show her in the front seat (even though it clearly was) so it also got tossed out.
it’s been a year and 8 months, they’re on and off and I still honestly hate her and never want to see her and I’m worried I’m gonna cross paths with her for my sons surgery tomorrow and it just makes me sick. She literally destroyed my pregnancy and blew it to smithereens.
She won’t stop using his social media and making burners to watch my snap, my Facebook, sending her friends, etc.
I’ve also told my baby daddy some things about my relationship because I was so lost and hurt and needed him to take my son during a time with my own partner and now he holds it against me and I feel so stuck. I genuinely thought I could trust him. I just feel so stupid. Part of me misses him but I can never trust him or look at him the same.
I don’t know anymore. I just can’t stand the grimy female dog and wish she’d fuck off for good. He’s only mean when she’s around. I really want this conflict to stop and at one point it almost did but I just got angry at him for remembering everything he’s done and we went right back to square one.