i have a crush while having a boyfriend
hi, to sum up my situation i’ve been dating this guy for two years and he’s pretty great, he doesn’t start fights or get jealous easily but at the same time, he doesn’t do anything. he doesn’t buy me gifts unless it’s my birthday or christmas, he doesn’t take me out on dates (even something simple like going ti the park), he’s just incompetent. whenever we do go somewhere i have to plan everything. the navigation, where to eat, what to bring, stuff like that.
he’s also very immature. he always makes stupid cringy jokes and acts like a kid. even when i get irritated with him he tries to get out of it like a kid would (he tries to guilt trip, says he’s just stupid and he’ll do better, or buys me gifts to convince me not to be mad at him when he never buys gifts for me otherwise). it sounds stupid, but i don’t know if he does it maliciously, or if he’s just that dumb. whenever i bring these issues up he tries making things right, but in the end he goes back to his manchild ways. no matter how many times i’ve told him what i want he never changes.
it upsets me because in all other aspects he’s great, and i love our relationship. i just want a guy that loves me the way i want and he might not be that guy. i know it’s not the end of the world if we break up, but he’s already met my family and i’ve met his, we’re pretty committed (plus he might have bought us concert tickets that i CANNOT miss).
i’ve had a massive crush on this guy from my class, i know nothing about him except that he’s emo and has a few pins on his bag of bands that i like. i know it’s unfair to my boyfriend because i totally made up a whole relationship in my head with his emo guy and im just delusional. i want so bad to break up with my boyfriend because ive given him so many chances and try to shoot my shot with this guy but i know it can’t.
also, not to sound too depressing but i know im not the most attractive girl ever, and realistically, i know my boyfriend isn’t either. we’re kinda meant for each other in the sense that we’re just not attractive enough to date anyone else, so i know i have no chance with this emo guy or any other guy for that matter
maybe i should just stay with my mediocre boyfriend because in reality i can’t get anything better lol