I'm jealous of my band members and am pissed that I'm not getting as much praise/attention as them
I (19F) play guitar and sing in a pop punk/emo band and we've established ourselves in our city/scene. For the most part, I'm having a blast playing a buncha shows, but there's one thing that's been bothering me a lot, and I don't know what to do. As the title says, I'm jealous of my band members and am pissed that I don't get as much praise/attention as them.
The band members in question are our bassist (20M), and his twin brother (20M), who is our lead guitarist, who also sing. Both people are pretty handsome, conventionally attractive men, and they have a lotta stage presence and charisma (which is something I've gotten better at doing), but I notice at most shows, the audience pays most of their attention to them and do next to nothing when it's my chance to sing/perform.
I started noticing this when we played at one of our friends' birthday party. Most of the audience members had their eyes on the twins and cheered a lot, but when it came time for me to sing shit, the reaction wasn't as strong.
Since that show, I've just been questioning everything I do and say compared to my band members. Am I outgoing enough? How can I be more outgoing onstage? Am I too weird? Am I not being expressive enough? Is the way I present myself good enough or do I need to tone myself down (this I will elaborate in a second)? Do I write catchy/palatable enough songs? Are my lyrics to vague? Am I too niche?
I've talked to some of my friends about it and a common thing has been established: People are afraid of eccentrism and me being transfem only DOUBLES THIS. I'm not as conventionally attractive as my band members, I'm neurodivergent, my music taste is ecclectic, the cover songs I like to play are by more underground bands like Joyce Manor, MOBO, and Title Fight (unfortunately, our fanbase listens to bigger pop punk/emo bands like Fall Out Boy and Blink), and I'm more outspoken about politics. As much as I believe this to be this the case, a part of me is in denial because this is the punk rock/alternative scene, a scene that is rooted in accepting outsiders and outcasts.
Obviously, the one thing I can do is to continue bettering my craft, but I want to do everything in my power to be as good as the band members and not have that nagging voice in my head and I kinda just want some advice from anyone (double if you're a punk) that may have been in my shoes.