For those couples who allow their partners to make out with other people (or those who know of those), do you make out with friends, strangers, or only hookups? Or all the above?
Just curious as it’s all new to me. (I made out with a friend couple).
10 years ago I met this guy and we went out on a couple of dates. We hooked up. But he texted me to let me know that he was going to start seeing someone else exclusively but happy to keep in touch as friends.
While it stung, I know that’s how dating goes. We didn’t keep in touch and I found someone else.
Fast forward 10 years and I’m single again and I randomly bump into him. We caught up over drinks…me not intending it to be anything more, but ended the night making out. Felt like I was picking up where we left off.
I actually don’t know what his current situation is. I probably didn’t ask because I didn’t want to know. (Please no judgment here).
BUT assuming he’s single, would you be willing to give someone who passed you up a second chance? Or even better have you?
Full context, I’ve had a threesome with him and his partner. He had previously said that he didn’t want to upset his partner by having the three of us hang out. I was ok with that explanation.
But on a couple of occasions his partner has asked
me to join them (hanging out). So I called out my friend that his partner doesn’t seem very upset about the idea.
So he changes his explanation to say that it’s because he doesn’t want me to feel he’s neglecting me if he directs his attention to his partner while we’re out. I’m like “umm I would hope you do pay more attention to your partner. and that doesn’t stop you from hanging out with your other friends.”
He then put it on me to decide if I want to hang out with them or not if I might get hurt or feel neglected. In my mind I’m like “look…you either want me around or you don’t”.
In any case, it comes off to me like he’s actively/purposely avoiding me. And I struggle to decide if I want to invest any more time in developing this friendship or if I’m being petty or blowing it out of proportion. He did invite me out after my confrontation but I declined.
Why is it that straight men have worked through the dilemma of the dead bedroom with their wives but gay men are prone to thinking opening up the relationship is the solution?
We can’t say it’s because we’re men and it’s hardwired into our DNA.