u/Chris_shiny_hunt

Context:
My girlfriend and I have had small conversations about this guy coworker who she became friends with. She never told no and in fact comforts me many times about how I am the only one for her and that she’s always going to be there to comfort and listen to me I ever want.
There is nothing wrong with there friendship as it’s purely platonic. I don’t want her to stop being his friend either as they are in a friend group and she really happy with all of them.
My thing is this guy and her text almsot everyday. Even when I’m present and I’ve brought it up that hey Id rather that she wait till she’s home to text him. He’s done nothing wrong and neither is she. I’m just being cautious as this her first guy friend

Story:
\*\* \*\*Recently we had a little care with her being late 2 weeks on her period. She is a very anxious girl and she was pretty down and she can show it. We took a test and negative cool all is done. One day asks me if I can ask her sister through text for something she left at home. I seriously for the life me couldn’t find her and her context wasn’t showing up so I searched up “2 weeks”. That being because I was there when she texted her about it as we went to her house to do the test. And when I search it up, the guy coworkers name shows up. She had texted him about it. It surprised me b it did not upset me because I had told some of my friends too it’s a stressful situation and I understand why she vented to someone.
Fast forward a bit and we’re In bed talking about things and I was just telling her that I was okay with her hanging out with guy coworker and interacting. I admitted he made me a little jealous and insecure at times but I wasn’t going to let that ruin her friend ship. She reminded me that her phone is an open book and that she isn’t looking actively trying to hangout with him on their own. We are good. I don’t know what took over me but I asked like this:
\- will be her responses
Hey I have to ask you something important
\*\*-\*\*oh sure
I wanna ask and it might be weird but I want you to be honest with me
\*\*-\*\*okay go ahead
Did you tell him you were two weeks late
\-(pause ) no I didn’t why would I?

My heart sank. She’s lying to me and I know that she is. I gave her multiple opportunities to come clean saying hey are you sure you are telling the truth I feel you off and she kept saying no. Then I told her that I saw the texts and she confessed and her words were
You scared me how you started the question and with Avery thing about him making you jealous and a little insecure I didn’t want just say yes and make you feel worse.
In all honest had she said yes I wouldn’t have cared but she didn’t and I’m still in shock.
She kept apologizing and saying that there’s nothing there and that I can look through her phone and she promises that nothing there and she feels bad that she lied. She dosent want me to doubt her when she tells me something. I know her she’s never lied but I feel hurt it happened and I just can stop thinking about if there is something else that she could be lying about.
She was sad all night and all day today and kept reminding me how sorry she was. I told her that I want some boundaries with him and explained them and she was okay with it and promised that she wasn’t saying yes just to try to make me happy but to actually make sure they are there.

Im not a perfect person as I have lied to her to and have come clean but if didn’t know the truth would she have come clean? Ask if you have any questions :) anything helps for real and thank you for your time.

Ps I’m sorry I suck at writing I am legit on my phone at 10 pm. And sorry for no grammar I hate doing this but I’m actually anxious over this