Stuck in the middle with her
I have a really fuckin' weird relationship with my mother. (I'm LC with my dad, not by choice, but he's back in town so I look forward to changing that! But that's off-topic.)
I got bullied. A lot. Really bad. She was really good for the most part, and her natural fearfulness was … functional.
My grandfather died just before COVID reached American shores, and she started using me as an emotional outlet -- unpaid therapist. I started drinking; she started using my sister instead.
(My sister went NC 7 years ago over this, but reconnected after a while. They're low contact, but that suits them now.)
Anyway, her brothers were shitty over inheritance and now she's trying to save me from myself and my boyfriend thinks I need to go NC. That's great: I have ~$1.33 to my name and that won't get me on a bus.
But it was fucking weird living with his parents.
They ask questions rather than assume, say his name before launching into a conversation, and generally don't try to control his finances.
My mother has blackballed my last two job offers through sabotage, by comparison.
(His mother spoke with me for the first time during my lunch break on April 15, 2020. My mother was working from home. I was on speakerphone, and she started screaming at me from the family room door to get back to work. I had just burned ~1200 calories according to to my apple watch, and was badly overheated at the time. His mother said she wanted to slap mine in the mouth for talking to me like that; that's the first moment where I realized our relationship was beginning to change for the worse.
Later, his mother would observe that mine didn't really actually know me very well at all, and … that was another nerve being touched directly with a soldering iron.)
(Will edit this with another comment I wrote that was long, hard and unfun to write.)
Elder millennial here. STILL being controlled.
My mother threatened to allow a mutual fund set up for me by my grandfather to be seized by the state if I didn't put her name on it. Now I'm only allowed to spend it on approved education or training. (I'm forties… think this is just straight up extortion and wire-fraud, btw.)
Doesn't seem to actually realize she's fucked me out of three career-path jobs despite being told that repeatedly.