Advice needed on a last minute pre-wedding dinner (not Rehearsal dinner)
I’m getting married next Saturday 05/23. Due to availability with our venue, our Rehearsal (and subsequent dinner) will be on Thursday 05/21. This will include my side, our small bridal party, officiant, a couple friends, and my future in laws who are coming from out of state (mother, father, sister, and her husband). My in laws are graciously paying for the rehearsal dinner.
There are still several folks on my fiancé’s side who are flying in on Friday 05/22, who are not in the wedding and thus don’t need to rehearse.
The crux of my issue is that my future in-laws unilaterally decided and only informed me yesterday that they wanted to have a big dinner on Friday with these out of town guests, as well as a few local family members. All on their side. They had no reservation and wanted my help, so I had to scramble to find a decent upscale restaurant that could accommodate 16 guests on a busy Friday. To which we are invited, as it’s an event related to our wedding and only those going to the wedding are invited.
My fiancé and I have no desire to attend this dinner. We already have the rehearsal & dinner the previous evening, an early wake up on Friday to set up our reception site, and then an even earlier wake up on Saturday for our morning ceremony/brunch reception.
Would it be rude of us not to attend this last minute dinner? We are both already very introverted people and the thought of three back to back to back events sounds exhausting. We would otherwise have no downtime to actually relax in the lead up to the wedding.