u/Clean_Cat_984

okay I need some heavy advice. I just found out I was pregnant around 4 days ago. Im 23 and have never been pregnant. Im the oldest of 7 tho so I do know pretty much everything about raising a baby but obviously it's diffrent when yOur the mother. Growing up I never wanted kids since I had always lived with them but now I'm 23 and living in a house with my boyfriend that we own. Im a shift manager at starbucks tho but I do make decent money. My boyfriend is a IT technician and also gets pretty decent pay. We live upstate so our lives are pretty calm and family friendly. My boyfriend isn't ready for a baby and would rather I have an abortion but he does support any decision I make and will be there for me. I just don't know what to do at all. Ive never ben good at decision making anyway because I can always see both sides working out. Once me and my boyfriend attracted going out I started to actually want kids and could very much see that for my future. But now I'm here and I'm only about 4 weeks so its very early where I can just take the abortion pill and walk away with bleeding and cramps but at the same time I grew up heavily in the Christian church and obviously they view abortion as a really bad thing. Ive always always been pro choice as I strongly believe no women should ever be told what to do with there body. But after picking up the pill something in me started to feel very very wrong . Like I was making a mistake or doing something very bad. Morally its really started to mess with me because again ive always been pro choice and didn't see a fetus or anything like that as a life until birth but now when its my own body those same thoughts don't run thru my head knowing that what's inside of me will and could be a living thing one day. Ive talked to my friends and family and have a very strong emotional support group. Part of me feels also like I'm in a very blessed situation for what I'm in like I have my boyfriend by my side I also have so much support in this I never realized and financially I'm in a decent spot. TO me if feels like I'm doing something bad for no reason since other people actually need to have abortions since there in rougher spots and here I am fine but just not sure if I'm ready or wanting kids just yet which I'm sure is still valid but to me it doesn't feel like a good excuse or something I'm not sure.

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okay I need some heavy advice. I just found out I was pregnant around 4 days ago. Im 23 and have never been pregnant. Im the oldest of 7 tho so I do know pretty much everything about raising a baby but obviously it's diffrent when yOur the mother. Growing up I never wanted kids since I had always lived with them but now I'm 23 and living in a house with my boyfriend that we own. Im a shift manager at starbucks tho but I do make decent money. My boyfriend is a IT technician and also gets pretty decent pay. We live upstate so our lives are pretty calm and family friendly. My boyfriend isn't ready for a baby and would rather I have an abortion but he does support any decision I make and will be there for me. I just don't know what to do at all. Ive never ben good at decision making anyway because I can always see both sides working out. Once me and my boyfriend attracted going out I started to actually want kids and could very much see that for my future. But now I'm here and I'm only about 4 weeks so its very early where I can just take the abortion pill and walk away with bleeding and cramps but at the same time I grew up heavily in the Christian church and obviously they view abortion as a really bad thing. Ive always always been pro choice as I strongly believe no women should ever be told what to do with there body. But after picking up the pill something in me started to feel very very wrong . Like I was making a mistake or doing something very bad. Morally its really started to mess with me because again ive always been pro choice and didn't see a fetus or anything like that as a life until birth but now when its my own body those same thoughts don't run thru my head knowing that what's inside of me will and could be a living thing one day. Ive talked to my friends and family and have a very strong emotional support group. Part of me feels also like I'm in a very blessed situation for what I'm in like I have my boyfriend by my side I also have so much support in this I never realized and financially I'm in a decent spot. TO me if feels like I'm doing something bad for no reason since other people actually need to have abortions since there in rougher spots and here I am fine but just not sure if I'm ready or wanting kids just yet which I'm sure is still valid but to me it doesn't feel like a good excuse or something I'm not sure.