u/Clear-Individual1575

AITAH for not wanting my boyfriend to share intimate details of our relationship and/or sex life with his female friends? My boyfriend (35M) and I (36F) have been together for a little over a year. One of the points of contention in our relationship is that he likes to have female friends. When I say friends, I don’t mean like high five and a “how you been?” when he runs into them, but rather girls that he has deep meaningful relationships with. I trust that it does not go beyond friendship and I have grown to accept it, at least as much as I can. That said, I have asked that there be boundaries as far as content of his conversations with them.

My position is that there are certain private things that are to be kept within the sanctity of the relationship. I am not comfortable with him discussing intimate situations and our sex life.

His position is that everyone needs to have an outlet, especially if there is trouble in the relationship and he prefers a women’s perspective. In fairness he says he would not care if I talked to a guy friend the same way, but I don’t.

For context, a while back I found out that he disclosed some very intimate details about our sex life to one of these female friends, comparing me to one of his exes. The only reason I found out was because they had a falling out and the so-called friend spilled the beans. This really hurt me. He assures me that he has not done that since, as he has no complaints in that department. The reason I mention it is because I feel that context matters and this situation has made me feel very exposed and fearful that it will happen again, especially if he sees nothing wrong with it. Which is essentially the foundation of this whole debate. Reddit, please tell me, am I completely out of line here? Are opposite sex friendships like this common, and acceptable? Am I the a-hole for having a problem with it? Give it to me straight, I can take it.