u/CoachToughLove

"Hate" seems to be a popular topic today. I see it on both "sides" and don't find any of it productive. I can only point to a couple of times in my life where I felt something close to "hate."

The first was when I was around 5 years old and my cousin purposefully slammed a brick on my toe. That pissed me off! RAGE MONSTER!!

The second, which is more relevant, was when I was with my first major rejection at the age of 22. I had been pursuing a woman, who was objectively out of my league, and after telling me "I'm not looking for a relationship right now", among many other similar things, she ended up in a relationship with a very desirable college athlete shortly after.

Upon realizing that she chose him because he was more desirable, it made me very mad that she wouldn't just tell me the real reason - that she just wasn't attracted to me. These feelings simmered for weeks and I started to feel more jaded towards women in general.

But then I looked inward. I (finally) took a deep look in the mirror and realized I wasn't attractive enough to intrigue the type of women I wanted. It wasn't her fault. It was my fault. If I were her, why would I choose me?

There was quite a bit of learning with romance to take place for me over the next few years, but through being cheated on, left for another, ghosted, made fun of, whatever, I never felt "hate" and realized it was on me to change my outcome.

I hope more people get to experience the success that comes with this way of thinking.

"Hypergamy never sleeps" is a common Red Pill expression, meaning women's instinct to be with a higher status or wealthier partner never ceases, regardless of how good the current relationship is.

From my experience this only partly true, and it's more about her attraction level as to the specifics of what makes it go up or down. Subconsciously perceived inner "strengths" such as Ambition, Courage, Confidence, Charisma, Independence, Status, and Self-Esteem make her attraction go up, and the antonyms of those qualities make her attraction go down. "Frame" to me would be another way of describing a combination of the above.

Therefore there is no "Monkey Branching" as long as her attraction level is high. To restate, they don't care about other men or have feelings for other men when their attraction level is high.

The core problem, as I see it, is that Muscle Man On The Beach Kicking Sand In Some Nerd’s Face ™ has misconstrued our perception of a much, much more nuanced phenomenon. You can believe what you want, about wolves, monkeys, Jordan Peterson’s lobsters, or any other creatures on this earth, but anecdotal evidence is overwhelming that women (or the female animals) romantically gravitate towards men (or the male animals) that exhibit certain physical and more importantly non-physical strength traits, which in the human world equate to: Ambition, Courage, Confidence, Charisma, Composure (challenge and self-control), Status, and Self-Esteem.

Women "prefer" and subconsciously choose to be with men with high marks in these categories vs. the alternative.