My baby’s picture was on Snapchat app
I have had a young nanny for 4 months for my 14 month old. We are quite liberal usually for most reasonable things but had a clear rule of NO POSTING ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
She does take my baby out for walks and to some classes so I knew she sometimes clicks her pictures. However today , she left her phone on the countertop which she forgot to shut and the screen has my baby girl’s video on the Snapchat app. Now I am too old for these apps, I am not even on social media , but I anyways considered Snapchat the worst of all given the genesis of the app.
Now she claims that she only used the app to click pictures and not to send anyone. And while I did trust her up to this point (she is an okay nanny - and we were deliberating replacing her anyway) , but now I just can’t trust her at all. I feel like terminating her right away. She left an hour and a half ago after I asked her to leave for the day after confronting her (something that I am not good at anyways) , but there isn’t even an apology message.
Am I overreacting ???? Even if she didn’t send the pic to anyone ?? I don’t know !!
EDIT: My Reddit community ALWAYS comes to my rescue. Really appreciative you all giving me your perspectives. I did absorb it all and here is what I did today - I went on a walk with my nanny and had a chat with her - I told her while I trust that she means it when she says she never posted my baby’s pictures but I wish she was more thoughtful of seeking my permission for using the app especially since we had a very strict NO SOCIAL MEDIA rule. Due to my very strong personal stance on social media , this lapse of judgement unlocked a new fear in my head as a new mommy that would be very difficult for me to shake off . She had tears and I felt bad so I gave her a day off to cool down and let me know if she wanted to start her 30 day notice period with me, where I’ll introduce some rules but also ensure that there is no awkwardness since I don’t doubt her love and care for my baby. I did bring up the other reasons I had as well. She said she will let me know tonight whether she wants to continue or not !