I don’t know what to do anymore
Hi, I just want to apologize in advance if I make any language or grammar mistakes. English is not my first language.
I’m a 26-year-old woman (f26), and my mother has been an alcoholic for at least 16 years.
Right now, I’m completely at my wits’ end, and I honestly don’t know what else I can do or say to get through to her.
I’ll briefly explain some of her history so you understand where my frustration and fear are coming from:
2020: She had her first epileptic seizure, which resulted in a hospital admission.
2024: She was admitted to the emergency department and was diagnosed with liver failure and jaundice.
2025: She was hospitalized again because of a severely swollen and bloated abdomen.
Every time she was hospitalized, she managed to stop drinking and get sober for a while. But after a few months, she would always end up reaching for a bottle of wine or port again.
Now, coming to the present: over the past while, I’ve noticed that she has started drinking again. And this time, I’m noticing some really worrying symptoms.
I’ll list a few of them:
Bleeding and inflamed lips
She can no longer control her bladder
She has stopped taking care of herself properly
She is extremely depressed
She has become very forgetful
She has already had several serious falls
I’m so scared for her safety, and I’m not ready to bury my mother.
But I keep wondering: Is there anything else I can do for her? Or do I need to start preparing myself for the possibility that this might be the end?
P.S. If anyone reading this has been through something similar, you deserve all the love in the world. ❤️