Need advice
I’ve been with my partner for almost 9 years and I love her and can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone else. She’s smart, successful, beautiful, and funny. Early on in our relationship, I did get caught cheating and she took me back. Grateful, she’s just an all around godsend and tbh really don’t deserve her. I spent a lot of time after that trying to prove to her, I’ve changed and be the man she deserves and believes I can be. Fast forward to last year I went to a club with my friends and was caught dancing with multiple women, my first slip up since our first betrayal (in 8 years)and I didn’t kiss or have sex with any of these women but still cheating at the end of the day and no my friends don’t enable me they check me and let me know I’m fucking up. After months of talking about us and self reflection on why am so self destructive and punishing her, she yet again found it in her heart to move forward and giving me a chance to be a man and do right. As of today I’ve seen a therapist to really see what’s wrong with me but due to insurance issues have stopped seeing them. But through a lot of sessions, and practice I’ve really improved on communication, and a lot deep seated issues I’ve never really addressed. I feel like our relationship has gotten so strong even tho I’ve fucked it up multiple time. I finally feel like I’m becoming the man she needs And tbh deserves. I need help with dealing with these intrusive thoughts, because anytime woman flirts with me and hits on me I can’t help but enjoy it still and even tho I don’t entertain them and turn them down I still have these thoughts in the back of my head. How do I stop having these intrusive thought, is it possible?