Hello, I’m one of the infamous siblings, my sibling is the main and solo caretaker for our dementia stage 6 parent, I really pitty them but our relantionship has been always distant and is nothing more than sour.
II’m overseas, stuck with debts and my own family, I call once a week to talk with my parent that just forgets I did it a minute later, All I can offer is limited money, to pay nurse/aide at least 9 hours so my sibling can have their own life, or going to force my parent to a nursing home ( I know it seems harsh but if my sibling is at their limit I cannot take their place, I need to keep working for my own and I’m less capable to care for a person like this), and this offerings have been rejected.
Is hard to me to give emotional support to my sibling as them acting really resentful, I’m a coward and selfish I know, I give up anything herency related I really don’t care I know them deserve it all and more I don’t have.
what else can I do, what will easy them as fellow caregivers can tell me?