for some context: my mother in law is a total covert (hidden) narcissist, it's been confirmed by multiple family members.
I would best describe her as "a wolf in sheep's clothing", as she is super fake nice and her bitchy underhanded comments will sneak up on you. she's the epitome, even according to her own son, aka my husband, of a "toxic woman"...so yeah I'm in a not so great position. I hate that I have to deal with her at all.
Now that I have had a child with my husband, she does even more covert narc things but under the guise of the "caring grandma"...she's a true piece of work.
she will always say either "you're too skinny" with a mean disgusted face or "you're too chubby" to try and make me feel like she does…insecure. and she won't ever comment about how well I'm doing for my child and my husband. it goes beyond this too.
Nothing is ever good enough fo her. I have stopped bending over backwards to try and appease her, so that's a win. I am not even mentioning the true evilness of which she's gone to here as I'm too tired rn but just wanted to vent a little bit as l've been thinking about going no contact completely with her and that will include my child as she's shown over and over again that she sees my daughter as a prop or an object...it's deeply disturbing and not at all fair or healthy for my child or me.
What are my options legally speaking if she tries to push her way into my child's life? My husband thinks she has "changed" but I know and others in our family know she hasn’t really, shes just gotten quieter with her abuse/toxic ways.