u/Comfortable-Worth370

I just need somewhere to get this frustration out. I’m not sure if my dad is a narcissist. But I think he is. For background, my dad basically has extreme mommy issues because his mother dropped him off with his grandmother to raise him. And his other family didn’t treat him well either. This has clearly affected him well into adulthood.

Because of this, he has this aversion to holidays and special occasions. Birthdays, graduations, Christmas, thanksgiving, Mother’s Day, yet funnily enough he tends to be in a slightly better mood than constantly downright miserable on Father’s Day.

Yesterday, was Mother’s Day. My sister and I planned her gifts. Flowers, skin care products she loves, a card. She seemed happy and was giving us lots of hugs and kisses. Then we told her we’re taking her out for breakfast. Last year, we went to a particular restaurant and the wait was long and he nearly caused a scene. So we agreed we’d go to a different chain. He wakes up and grouchily asks what the plan is. We say we’re going to that restaurant and he nearly starts freaking out and when we explain it’s a different location he’s still irritated despite us saying that’s what mom wanted. He nitpicks everything. The water we put in the vase for her flowers. Saying we’re taking too long and will have to wait at the restaurant when he was the last one even ready. (which its Mother’s Day.. duh there’s going to be a lot of people waiting for a table).

We get to the restaurant, he’s claiming it’s a 2 hour wait. The hostess really said 40 minutes. He impatiently goes to wait off in a corner by himself. By the time we sit down he’s somehow thinking we should all just know what we should get without even looking at the menu and when I say we’re going to need a few minutes he gives me the look. After a few minutes I ask my mom what she’s going to get. There was a bit of confusion about what she wanted cause she was pointing at one thing but saying another. Then, my sister jumps in and then my dad gets very agitated and even the slightest conflict. He starts getting upset when it was really just a confusion, my sister is basically telling him to stop talking and that he always does this and that she doesn’t want to hear anything from him and it’s not his day. He says to stop disrespecting him and that he’ll walk out right now, my sister says she doesn’t care and he gets up and walks out the restaurant right in front a waitress at the table who saw everything.

My mom is a chronic people pleaser so she’s basically spending the next 20 minutes texting him to come back inside while he stews in the car in the parking lot. We end up eating without him and when we get back in the car he is silent, road rage’s, and when we get home is stomping around and giving people the silent treatment, not eating any food put aside for him. Later in the evening, my mom showed me the texts she sent him at the restaurant and he she said that what happened and what he did was very embarrassing for her and he was said like good, deal with it. I’m not going to be disrespected etc.

It’s just so exhausting living with someone like this. This is not even the first Mother’s Day he’s ruined being this way. He’s done similar things on every holiday. Even my birthday last year he was in a terrible mood and didn’t even hug me. Wished me happy birthday as he walked past and that was it. It’s just so hard being stuck in an environment where people anticipate him being in a terrible mood and ruining special days. It was supposed to be a good day for my mom and he soured everything like he always does. I’m just so tired of dealing with this.

Sorry this was so long.

After crying when not seeing any difference in my weight and the scale not moving, I can finally start to see a difference! And my family keeps telling me that I slimmed down and my clothes are definitely easier to slip on compared to before and looking in the mirror I definitely see that I slimmed down a bit especially in my abdomen area which is exciting.

I’ve started going to the gym and doing incline walking, I drink almost exclusively drink water and I definitely eat a lot more protein and try to pair carbs with protein. I’m also on ozempic but the smallest 0.25mg dose cause I can’t really afford going higher.

I don’t really like checking the scale cause.. i tend to be pretty affected by it but i can start to see and feel a difference and am just excited and happy! wanted to share this small victory lol

Should it be affecting my sleep this much?

Ruined Mother’s Day. And every holiday.

People saying I slimmed down 🥹